20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You Toxic people such as malignant narcissists, psychopaths and those with antisocial traits engage in maladaptive behaviors in relationships that ultimately exploit, demean and hurt their intimate partners, family members and friends. They use a plethora of diversionary tactics that distort the reality of their victims and deflect responsibility. Although those who are not narcissistic can employ these tactics as well, abusive narcissists use these to an excessive extent in an effort to escape accountability for their actions. Here are the 20 diversionary tactics toxic people use to silence and degrade you. 1. Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that can be described in different variations of three words: “That didn’t happen,” “You imagined it,” and “Are you crazy?” When a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath gaslights you, you may be prone to gaslighting yourself as a way to reconcile the cognitive dissonance that might arise. 2. Solution? 3. 4. 5. 6. Do you have a successful career? 7.
20 Brutally Honest Reasons Why I Don’t Have Any Friends 1. I have lost touch with most people from high school and college because it’s hard to make time for a social life when I spend most of my hours working. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria: How to Treat it Alongside ADHD Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is an extreme emotional sensitivity and emotional pain triggered by the perception — not necessarily the reality — that a person has been rejected, teased, or criticized by important people in their life. RSD may also be triggered by a sense of failure, or falling short — failing to meet either their own high standards or others’ expectations. Dysphoria is Greek for “difficult to bear.” It’s not that people with attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD) are wimps, or weak; it’s that the emotional response hurts them much more than it does people without the condition. When this emotional response is internalized, it can imitate a full, major mood disorder complete with suicidal ideation. It can take a long time for physicians to recognize that these symptoms are caused by the sudden emotional changes associated with ADHD and rejection sensitivity, while all other object relations are totally normal. Rejection sensitivity is hard to tease apart. 1. 2.
Masculinity Re-Imagined: Ten Powerful Actions to Transcend Conquest Culture and Embrace Compassion - —Masculinity has a serious problem. It has been boxed into a culture of conquest; its roots have a depth deeper than we can measure and an age longer than we can count. I am a man, and I sense this is true—yet I do not accept that it is the right path for men to walk. Conquest culture in all its forms—conquest over women, over the earth, over other men, over people of other nations or another skin color, overall living beings—brings about a shallow superiority that severs a man from his own spirit. Below are 10 powerful actions men can take to find their own path home through re-imagining masculinity for healthy relationships, families, communities, and society and the basic power each offers to transform male culture: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. If you believe in the work we are doing here at The Good Men Project, please join like-minded individuals in The Good Men Project Premium Community. Get the best stories from The Good Men Project delivered straight to your inbox, here.
7 Habits of Highly Emotionally Intelligent People - The future of business It has increasingly become accepted that emotional intelligence is an important factor in our success and happiness, not only at work, but in our relationships and all areas of our lives. So what sets emotionally intelligent people apart? Here are seven habits that people with high EI have: 1. While not ignoring the bad news, emotionally intelligent people have made a conscious decision to not spend a lot of time and energy focusing on problems. 2. People with a lot of emotional intelligence don’t spend a lot of time listening to complainers and tend to avoid negative people. Emotionally intelligent people spend time with others that are positive and look upon the bright side of life. 3. Although their friendly, open nature may make them appear as pushovers to some, people with high EI are able to set boundaries and assert themselves when needed. Related Video: The Case For Mindfulness And Meditation At Work They do not make needless enemies. 4. 5. 6. 7.
A new study claims that, under pressure, imposter syndrome hits men harder than women By Christian Jarrett The idea that some of us experience “imposter syndrome” was first mooted in the 1970s by two US clinical psychologists who noticed the preponderance of high-achieving women who felt they had somehow cheated or fluked their way to success and feared being found out. Research on the syndrome has since exploded and it’s become clear that many men also experience similar fraudulent feelings. In fact, in their new exploratory paper in Personality and Individual Differences, a team of US and German researchers claim that, under pressure, imposter syndrome may hit men harder than women, triggering more anxiety and worse performance – a difference they speculate may be due to traditional gender norms that place a greater expectation on men to be competent. Rebecca Badawy and her colleagues recruited hundreds of female and male undergrads studying communication or business in northeastern USA. —Are all impostors created equal?
Are You An Externalizer Or An Internalizer? 4 Ways Of Handling Blame | Childhood Emotional Neglect As a psychologist, I have worked with many families, teens, adults, and couples. And in this work, I have noticed a very interesting thing. Every family handles blame differently, and every individual person develops his or her own style of handling blame. Generally, I have noticed 4 specific styles. 4 Ways Of Handling Blame Externalizers: These are folks who automatically look for someone or something to blame when things go wrong, and it’s almost never themselves. The best way to become an Externalizer or an Internalizer or an Inconsistent Internalizer is to grow up in a family that handles blame in an unbalanced way. 3 Ways Families Handle Blame Automatically look for someone to blame when things go wrong and tend toward assigning the blame harshly. You may have surmised that Family #3 is the one that handles blame in the healthiest way. Chances are high that your way of dealing with blame as an adult is rooted in the way your family dealt with it while you were growing up. The Effects
Passive Aggressive Behavior and Anger Issues Updated June 13, 2016. I’m about to fill you in on a little secret. Anger plays a role in passive aggressive behavior. Yep, that passive aggressive spouse that is driving you insane is angry as hell and full of grief. The passive aggressive deals with anger in one of two ways. 1. How we handle our anger comes from lessons learned during childhood through our family of origin. continue reading below our video 2. Some children learn through their family of origin to become so passive that they allow others to walk all over them. Adults who have no control over their anger and those who have no idea how to express their anger are grieving. It is about loss, the loss of normal things any child should expect from a parent. The aggression or passivity hides their fear of rejection and helplessness when it comes to getting what they need from their spouse. Next time you are trying to make sense of some nonsensical behavior by your spouse remember you are dealing with a wounded, damaged child.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for ADHD After a lifetime of mistakes, mishaps, and missed deadlines, is it any wonder that adults with ADHD suffer dangerously low self-esteem and perpetually negative thoughts? Cognitive behavioral therapy is a short-term, goal-oriented form of psychotherapy that aims to change these negative patterns of thinking and change the way a patient feels about her self, her abilities, and her future. Consider it brain training for ADHD. Originally a treatment for depression, CBT is based on the recognition that cognitions, or automatic thoughts, lead to emotional difficulties. CBT aims to change irrational thought patterns that prevent individuals from staying on task or getting things done. Cognitive Distortions Individuals who grow up with ADHD (particularly if it has gone undiagnosed) encounter more frequent and frustrating setbacks in life situations — on the job, in social interactions, and everyday organization. All-or-nothing thinking. What’s New with CBT? What Is a Typical CBT Session Like?