Quiet, Please: Unleashing 'The Power Of Introverts' Introverts, who prefer quieter, lower-stimulation environments, have trouble thriving in today's extrovert-oriented culture, says author Susan Cain. iStockphoto.com hide caption toggle caption iStockphoto.com From Gandhi to Joe DiMaggio to Mother Teresa to Bill Gates, introverts have done a lot of good work in the world. In the 1940s and '50s the message to most Americans was: Don't be shy. Susan Cain — who considers herself an introvert — has written a new book that tells the story of how introversion fell out of style. Quiet The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain Interview Highlights On the difference between introversion and shyness "Introversion is really about having a preference for lower stimulation environments. "Many people believe that introversion is about being antisocial, and that's really a misperception. "Now, shyness, on the other hand, is about a fear of negative social judgment. On the culture of character vs. the culture of personality
Calm Down Mind Internal Time: The Science of Chronotypes, Social Jet Lag, and Why You’re So Tired by Maria Popova Debunking the social stigma around late risers, or what Einstein has to do with teens’ risk for smoking. “Six hours’ sleep for a man, seven for a woman, and eight for a fool,” Napoleon famously prescribed. (He would have scoffed at Einstein, then, who was known to require ten hours of sleep for optimal performance.) This perceived superiority of those who can get by on less sleep isn’t just something Napoleon shared with dictators like Hitler and Stalin, it’s an enduring attitude woven into our social norms and expectations, from proverbs about early birds to the basic scheduling structure of education and the workplace. The distribution of midsleep in Central Europe. This myth that early risers are good people and that late risers are lazy has its reasons and merits in rural societies but becomes questionable in a modern 24/7 society. The scissors of sleep. Chronotypes vary with age: [T]he less stress smokers have, the easier it is for them to quit. (Thanks, Jalees.)
Type-Coach.com How Long It Takes to Form a New Habit by Maria Popova Why magic numbers always require a grain of empirical salt. “We are what we repeatedly do,” Aristotle proclaimed. “Could the young but realize how soon they will become mere walking bundles of habits, they would give more heed to their conduct while in the plastic state,” William James wrote. But how, exactly, do we rewire our habits once they have congealed into daily routines? We already know that it takes more than “willpower.” When he became interested in how long it takes for us to form or change a habit, psychologist Jeremy Dean found himself bombarded with the same magic answer from popular psychology websites and advice columns: 21 days. In a study carried out at University College London, 96 participants were asked to choose an everyday behavior that they wanted to turn into a habit. This notion of acting without thinking — known in science as “automaticity” — turns out, perhaps unsurprisingly, to be a central driver of habits. Donating = Loving Share on Tumblr
Be True To Yourself To be true to yourself means to act in accordance with who you are and what you believe. If you know and love yourself you will find it effortless to be true to yourself. Just as you cannot love anyone else until you love yours elf, you cannot be true to anyone else until you are true to yourself. Be who you are! Many young people believe that when they do things to please their peers, such as drink when they shouldn't, or behave and party in inappropriate ways, they will be popular and liked. When you do things that are not genuine or a reflection of the real you, you will not be happy with yourself and will end up confused. Self-respect comes from being true to who you really are and from acting in accordance with your fundamental nature. When you respect yourself, others will respect you. When you are true to yourself, you allow your individuality and uniqueness to shine through. To be true to yourself takes courage. Related articles: <div class="statcounter"> </div>
The Backfire Effect: The Psychology of Why We Have a Hard Time Changing Our Minds by Maria Popova How the disconnect between information and insight explains our dangerous self-righteousness. “Allow yourself the uncomfortable luxury of changing your mind,” I wrote in reflecting on the 7 most important things I learned in 7 years of Brain Pickings. That humbling human tendency is known as the backfire effect and is among the seventeen psychological phenomena David McRaney explores in You Are Now Less Dumb: How to Conquer Mob Mentality, How to Buy Happiness, and All the Other Ways to Outsmart Yourself (public library) — a fascinating and pleasantly uncomfortable-making look at why “self-delusion is as much a part of the human condition as fingers and toes,” and the follow-up to McRaney’s You Are Not So Smart, one of the best psychology books of 2011. Once something is added to your collection of beliefs, you protect it from harm. The more difficult it becomes to process a series of statements, the less credit you give them overall. So where does this leave us?
The Cube Game - Find Out The True Nature Of People In this video I am going to play with you The Cube game. This psychological game is from the book “Secrets of the Cube” . Watch the video, remember your answers and check the meanings of your imagined objects below. I forgot to ask one question about the cube. The Cube game answers: The Cube The first object in the desert, the cube, represents you. The bigger the cube, the bigger your ego. If the cube is made out of something solid and strong, it means that you are a strong person. How you think about the cube represents how you think about yourself. If the cube is in the centre it means that you like the attention and you like to be praised. The color of the cube represents your personality. Here is a general guide to the cube colors: Black is the color of authority, elegance, sophistication. White symbolizes innocence, non-judgemental personality, objectivity, lack of strong opinions. Red is the color of dominance, power, love and sexual energy. Brown shows stability. The Ladder The Horse
8 Things Everybody Ought to Know About Concentrating “Music helps me concentrate,” Mike said to me glancing briefly over his shoulder. Mike was in his room writing a paper for his U.S. History class. On his desk next to his computer sat crunched Red Bulls, empty Gatorade bottles, some extra pocket change and scattered pieces of paper. In the pocket of his sweat pants rested a blaring iPod with a chord that dangled near the floor, almost touching against his Adidas sandals. Mike made a shift about every thirty seconds between all of the above. Do you know a person like this? The Science Behind Concentration In the above account, Mike’s obviously stuck in a routine that many of us may have found ourselves in, yet in the moment we feel it’s almost an impossible routine to get out of. When we constantly multitask to get things done, we’re not multitasking, we’re rapidly shifting our attention. Phase 1: Blood Rush Alert When Mike decides to start writing his History essay, blood rushes to his anterior prefrontal cortex. Phase 2: Find and Execute
The Magic Formula for Expressing Hurt Feelings If we could all just be more emotionally honest with ourselves and others, the world would be a much different place. Sounds easy, right? Then why is it so hard?!? Well, being straightforward about your feelings is a challenge when you grow up in a culture that polarizes emotions as out to get you and paints them as the take-down of your logical, rational mind (which is an irrational fear). But no matter how dysfunctional your cultural programming is, you can still reprogram your beliefs about emotions and their role in your life. This formula is good for you You’ve probably already learned from elementary school about the easy way to express your feelings without putting anyone else on the defensive in a mean way. It’s a magic formula helps you put your feelings back into perspective by reminding you that: The formula is: I feel this when you do that. Or, for when you need to try extra hard to get the other person’s attention: When you do that, I feel this. Change the world with magic ShareThis
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