CengizPak.com.tr » Yetkinlikler Kütüphanesi – 8 : Kendine Güvenmek, Özgüven Normal bir uçuştasınız, ortalıkta hiç bir olumsuzluk yok ve pilot konuşuyor : “Sayın yolcular, şu anda aklıma gelen bir iniş metodunu ilk kez deneyeceğim, endişelenmeyin, ben çok rahatım” Kendine güvenmek, sınırları gerçekçi tespit ederek hangi konularda nereye kadar ulaşabileceğimizi bilmek hayatımız boyunca gerekli bir yetkinlik. Kendinize güvenmeyince başarısız olmayı beklersiniz, hayatınızda döneceğiniz virajlara başkaları müdahale etmeye başlar daha doğrusu buna açık olursunuz. Hiç kimse kendine güven duymayan, sinirli ve değişken davranışlar gösteren birinin yönettiği proje içinde yer almak istemez, dolayısı ile “kendine güven” aynı zamanda bir takım liderliği olma özelliklerinden biridir. Diğer yandan kendine güven duyan insanlar bu duyguyu etraflarına da yayar, çevrede bulunan kişiler bunu kolayca hisseder ve olumsuzluklar karşısında daha sakin davranırlar. Peki siz dışarıdan bakılınca nasıl gözüküyorsunuz acaba, insanlar neleri değerlendirerek buna karar veriyorlar ? - Evet 1. 2.
14 Things Positive People Don't Do Positive people don’t have a magical power that you don’t possess. Instead of letting stress control them, positive people take control of their life by managing stress and striving to improve every day. Check out these things that positive people don’t do, so you too can be happy and successful. 1. It’s amazing how many problems wouldn’t exist if we didn’t invent them. 2. It’s easy to live in a lie because lies can grow so strong that it can eventually make people forget about the truth. 3. Positive people understand that resentment only causes pain in life over and over again, so they let go of it. 4. Is it easy to forget the little things? 5. Positive people realize they are the CEO of their life and thus take full responsibility for how things are. 6. The word “problems” is seen as “challenges” for positive people. 7. This “reality” most people speak of sounds like a dreadful place where dreams go to die. 8. 9. Boredom is a place where creativity, inspiration, and productivity die.
Grup bülteni: ELEŞTİREN İNSANLAR VE ELEŞTİRİ DOLU İLİŞKİLER - "Ben eleştirilmekten rahatsız olmam" bu sözü duydunuz mu hiç? gerçekçi olmasını beklemeyin. her insan , belli dozdan sonra rahatsız olur. Eleştiri, bütün bünyeleri güçsüz düşüren bir virüstür. Eleştirel bir tutum, yapısal bir özelliğiniz ise, dikkat edin. soğuk, duygusuz, mükemmeliyetçi,inatçı, bencil,narsist,bağımlı gibi özelliklerinizi de keşfedebilirsiniz. Eleştiri, sadece evlilik ve flörtlerde değil, hayatımızda ilişki içinde olduğumuz tüm insanlarla sorun yaşatan bir tavırdır. size sadece olumsuzlukları yansıtan, övgü ve onur etme yerine sadece tamirci edasıyla düzeltmeye çalışan, ama bitmeyen bir tamir süreci gibi bir durum. Eleştirel tutumu olanları, tamirciye benzetirim. bir tamirci her zaman tamir edilecek yere odaklanır. İncelediğim evliliklerde 30 yılda bile eleştirel tutuma sahip insanların bir adım ileriye gidemediklerini, eşini değiştirmenin sınırının olmadığını,eleştirinin bir evlilik sorunu olmasından çok kişisel sorun olduğunu söyleyebilirim. Neleri eleştirmeliyiz?
Selling Software To Large Businesses Understanding The B2B Purchasing Cycle So You Can Exploit It Most folks reading this have seen one-half of the B2B purchasing cycle at their day jobs: they fill out a form or ask a manager for X (a copy of MSOffice, a new computer, etc), and six weeks later X arrives. You may have wondered whether the intervening six weeks required dark rituals of eldritch power. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6a. 6b. 7. The Easiest Hack Around The Purchasing Process All internal users hate the purchasing process because it inhibits their ability to get work done. Because the whole rigamarole costs several hundred dollars in employee salary to approve any PO, most internal Purchasing Departments have a few enumerated exceptions. Some businesses do not have a corporate card available and will request to pay by PO all of the time. Dealing With The "You're Not Big Enough" Objection You may be dealing with a larger transaction than the $500 exemption or with a more conservative business than the typical megacorp.
25 Things To Let Go Of Before Your Next Birthday Imagine what we’d all look like if we wore our worries on the outside. If there were some physical manifestation of our emotional baggage and hang-ups, we’d all be unrecognizable. If you find yourself thinking sometimes that you’re not who you should be, it’s time to explore ways to kick that feeling to the curb and look at how to change things in a healthy way. Here are 25 things to let go of that we could all stand to ditch by our next birthdays. 1. We were built to pursue greatness and to perform to the best of our abilities. 2. We’re all our brother’s keepers in one way or another, but letting the burdens of others consume and rule over your own life isn’t healthy. 3. Most of us tend to think that other people judge us much more harshly than they actually do. 4. It’s almost a cliché by now to point out how badly our body images have been warped by the media. 5. 6. Regret is like a poison; left untreated, it can kill you. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. We all have responsibilities. 13. 14. 15.
13 Things to Remember When Life Gets Rough We’ve all gone through hard times. And we all get through them. However, some get through them better than others. 1. Buddha’s famous saying tells us: “It is your resistance to ‘what is’ that causes your suffering.” 2. Many times, we are our own worst enemy. 3. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. 4. You should just wipe the word “failure” right out of your vocabulary. 5. That’s hard to believe sometimes, I know. 6. This moment will never come again. 7. Most people live with “attached mind.” 8. Fear can be a great teacher. 9. Believe it or not, I know way too many people who don’t allow themselves to have fun. 10. But if you do compare yourself, compare yourself with people who have it worse than you. 11. You need to get out of your own way. 12. “And this too shall pass” is one of my favorite sayings. 13. Miracles happen every day.
Why Are Some People So Critical? - Steven Berglas by Steven Berglas | 12:00 PM March 6, 2014 Harsh critics are often talented, intelligent, and productive people. Unfortunately, they have a flaw that compels them to disparage others – almost, at times, as though they are diagnosing an illness in need of eradication. It seems they’re living according to the famous quip by Mark Twain: “Nothing so needs reforming as other people’s habits.” In the language of the self-help and recovery movements, these folks are often suffering from a disorder known as, “If You Spot It, You Got It [IYSIYGI].” What makes this dynamic so ugly is that unbeknownst to the person under attack, the critic is being driven to criticize by a repressed-and-intolerable feeling that he’s “got” what he deplores in others. For instance, years ago a client of mine and I were having dinner when he asked if I could help with a dilemma: “Diane, my comptroller, a woman 100% dedicated to the business, is also nastier than a junkyard dog.
It's a Hard-Knock Life for Freelancers Although some 9-to-5ers may envy the life of a freelancer, it's not always as easygoing as it looks. For starters, there's the money. Paydays are irregular and for some reason, checks always seem to be stuck in the mail. Then there's the shameful self-promotion, gigs falling through and parents that just don't understand — the list goes on. To highlight the woes and frustrations of freelancing, Garlic Jackson Comedy made this funny and oddly accurate parody, appropriately sung to the tune of Annie's "It's a Hard-Knock Life. "It's a Freelance Life," written by comedy writer Zack Bornstein, takes you through the daily problems of a freelancer in the modern age. Have something to add to this story?
Tech Trends 2014: Inspiring Disruption Help! My Wife Wants a Divorce, But I Don’t! What Can I Do? | husbandhelphaven “My Wife Wants Divorce, but I Don’t. I don’t understand where this came from, and I have no idea how I can get my wife back…What should I do?” As you continue reading, I’m going to walk you through several of the common reasons why your wife thinks she wants a divorce, and then once were done with that, I’m going to explain to you what you can do to change your wife’s mind. I’m not talking about psychological mind games or Jedi mind tricks, just a good old fashioned understanding of relationships and women. But enough talk, let’s get to the meat and potatoes, shall we? First Things First; Understanding Why My Wife Wants Divorce There are a number of reasons that could explain why your wife wants divorce. What I’d like to do in this section is talk with you about a few of the most common thoughts that enter a forlorn wife’s head when she is unhappy in a marriage. Reason #1. Let’s face it, marriage gets boring. Recommended Reading – How to Show Your Wife You Love Her Reason #2. Reason #3.
My letter to my wife :( My letter to my wife :( Falcon554: Dear Sharon, Although I have ALWAYS loved you with my heart and soul, I made you feel that EVERYTHING was more important to me than you. It never was the case, but that is how I made you feel and for that I am sorry. I have made mistakes in the past that hurt you and that cannot be changed. I'm aware that my behavior in the past contributed in part to your unhappiness and the emotional estrangement between us. I still believe we can have a happy, loving, fulfilling marriage. I've suffered tremendous pain from seeing our marriage falling apart and learning about your relationship with Issac and Shane, but I never stopped loving you and I never forgot what a wonderful person you are and how much joy you brought me and our family. Re: My letter to my wife :( Falcon554: I do not want this Divorce. I love you Sharon. All my love,Scott Re: My letter to my wife :( BONILLAK: Scott,That is a beautiful letter! Re: My letter to my wife :( hurtandangry: Falcon,
Reconciliation with a Hardened Wife Reconciliation with a Hardened Wife Version 3, Updated 3/7/2013 (Online version of the book Reconciling With Your Wife) How are you doing, husband? Is your wife considering separation, or worse, are you already separated? How are you handling it? I cannot promise that all who read this article and follow its recommendations will see their family restored, but I do believe that it presents the best biblical recommendations for a man abandoned by his wife -- particularly for men who feel they have been unjustly abandoned. Husbands, for your information When a woman first seriously considers divorce she usually isn’t thinking about the theological implications of her desires – all she knows is that she is desperate to get away from her husband. One of the reasons she became so weak, and finally, unwilling to go on, was that whenever she became hurt, she also became angry. Sadly, most husbands have few memories of “hurting” their wives. Understanding a woman’s communications 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.
Compassionate Sensitive Men | Ted Zeff Ph.D. As I mentioned in my recent article, Sensitive Men Can Save the Planet, most boys are taught from an early age to act tough and repress their emotions. Males who repress their emotions have created a planet on the brink of disaster, since most male world leaders behave in a bellicose and combative manner rather than exhibiting compassionate and cooperative behavior. We are at a turning point for the planet in which our male political leaders can either continue acting in an insensitive, belligerent manner, risking the destruction of humanity, or choose a new, collaborative, understanding approach to foreign, economic, and environmental policy. Creating a new vision How can ordinary people save the planet from further human and environmental destruction? For fathers, uncles, grandfathers, teachers, coaches or any man who wants to help boys become compassionate and sensitive human beings, the time is now to create a new vision for world peace. Gender Stereotypes Winning isn't everything
Celebrating the Highly Sensitive Man Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s NY Times bestseller “Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life” (Three Rivers Press, 2011) Sensitive men are incredibly attractive. They are path-forgers in the new paradigm of the evolved man. Strong and sensitive. In my book Emotional Freedom, I write extensively about the power of empaths and describe strategies for how empaths can stay centered and strong in an overwhelming world. Empaths are highly sensitive, finely tuned instruments when it comes to emotions. The great beauty of male empaths is that they can feel where you are coming from. A man’s empathy allows him to love more fully and be more committed in a loving relationship. Recognizing that you’re an empath is the first step in taking charge of your emotions instead of constantly drowning in them. Upside of Being an Empathic Man Downside of Being an Empathic Man Honestly accessing which traits are productive or not makes you freer.