Emotional Intelligence: The Social Skills You Weren't Taught in School

How to Be Emotionally Intelligent Photo What makes a great leader? Knowledge, smarts and vision, to be sure. To that, , author of “Leadership: The Power of Emotional Intelligence,” would add the ability to identify and monitor emotions — your own and others’ — and to manage relationships. Qualities associated with such “emotional intelligence” distinguish the best leaders in the corporate world, according to Mr. Realistic self-confidence: You understand your own strengths and limitations; you operate from competence and know when to rely on someone else on the team. Emotional insight: You understand your feelings. Resilience: You stay calm under pressure and recover quickly from upsets. Emotional balance: You keep any distressful feelings in check — instead of blowing up at people, you let them know what’s wrong and what the solution is. Self-motivation: You keep moving toward distant goals despite setbacks. Team playing: People feel relaxed working with you. Continue reading the main story

Happiness Hacks: 10 Ways to Infuse Your Life with Joy “There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh Life seems complicated these days. We’re all busy pursuing happiness, yet how many of us ever reach that goal? Success, money, and busyness are top of our priority list, yet deep in our hearts we’d prefer time, love, and security. It’s the age of making a living, but perhaps at the cost of making a life. What really makes us happy, and how do we find it? I spent many years trying to fit in, to be someone else, to pursue the dream of success, in my jobs and my relationships. I collected material things, often at the cost of what really mattered, and I was left unfulfilled as a result. I quit my corporate job and left my long-term relationship to go on a journey of self-discovery. 1. We live in a world where we are surrounded by ideals, and with a tendency to compare ourselves to others, it’s no wonder so many of us feel like we’re not enough. I’d tell myself that writing was a hobby, not a “real job.” 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9.

Emotional Intelligence theories This webpage is a new format for mobile/small screens. Please send your feedback if it fails to operate well. Thanks. emotional intelligence theory (EQ - Emotional Quotient) Emotional Intelligence - EQ - is a relatively recent behavioural model, rising to prominence with Daniel Goleman's 1995 Book called 'Emotional Intelligence'. The early Emotional Intelligence theory was originally developed during the 1970s and 80s by the work and writings of psychologists Howard Gardner (Harvard), Peter Salovey (Yale) and John 'Jack' Mayer (New Hampshire). Emotional Intelligence links strongly with concepts of love and spirituality: bringing compassion and humanity to work, and also to 'Multiple Intelligence' theory which illustrates and measures the range of capabilities people possess, and the fact that everybody has a value. The EQ concept argues that IQ, or conventional intelligence, is too narrow; that there are wider areas of Emotional Intelligence that dictate and enable how successful we are.

Releasing Unexpressed Emotion Randi G. Fine, ContributorWaking Times “Unexpressed emotion will never die. Most of the feelings that interfere with our lives today, our negative emotional responses, have little to do with what is occurring in the present. When these memories are subconsciously triggered, all rationality goes out the window. We may think we know why we are reacting the way we are, though we seldom do. Triggers bring the pain of our past to the surface for a very specific reason. That is not easily accomplished. That lack of understanding is a result of having been conditioned to bury our most uncomfortable feelings – to remain calm and to show our happy face to the world. Our emotions embarrass us. As a result, many of us have been denying our emotional pain for a very long time. The only requirement for existing in the physical world is that we breathe air. Emotion is a natural response to living. Our emotions are indicators of what is going on inside of us. About the Author

Information for Women and Girls with ADD (ADHD) Whether you're a woman with ADD or ADHD or the parent of a daughter with the disorder, you have probably struggled to find anyone in your community who understands you or your daughter, someone who has experience in diagnosing or treating ADHD in females. What you have told us... Many women with ADHD tell us that the professionals they consult insist their problems are only related to anxiety or depression. Many mothers write saying that their daughters with ADHD are often overlooked in the classroom or misunderstood by their teachers. An understanding ADHD in girls and women is very recent and few professionals have the information and experience that you need. What is clear is that ADHD in girls and women can look very different, and that girls and women often have very different challenges. Our response... If you are wondering whether you or your daughter might have ADD or ADHD here are some questionnaires and articles to help you get started in your search for answers.

Stephen Covey on Developing Emotional Intelligence “I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ? Oscar Wilde Emotional Intelligence is essentially an ability, capacity, or skill to assess, manage, and regulate the emotions of yourself and others. Why is emotional intelligence such a big deal? If you can’t manage your emotions, you crumble or snap under stress. If you can’t tune into others’ emotions and demonstrate empathy, you’ll have a hard time connecting with others. Yeah, emotional intelligence is a big deal. It’s a key for leaders and it’s a key for leadership. “”No one cares how much you know until they first know how much you care about them.” In the book, The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness, Stephen Covey acknowledges that there’s a lack of literature on how to develop emotional intelligence, and shares an approach for how to develop emotional intelligence using the 7 Habits. The Five Primary Components of Emotional Intelligence The 7 Habits and Principles

10 Lists To Keep If You Want To Be Successful The human mind is truly incredible, and we should all strive towards creating a tenacious memory we can rely on. Many lucrative professions or hobbies require such a trait—actors, musicians, artists and entertainers in general do countless drills, just so the required information can be embedded in the memory with certainty. Clearly numerous doors that lead to a successful future are unlocked if one has a great memory. Although beneficial, it is not an essential ingredient within the success formula—what you lack in memory can always be compensated with diligence. Keeping track of crucial elements in your life through list-making is still an unrivaled tactic for counterbalancing feeble recollection. 1. “What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” Goals and ambition is what drives us and motivates us, but we need to ask ourselves what is it that we want in order to feel truly accomplished. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.

Emotional Intensity Do you consider yourself an emotional person? If a potential friend candidly described you that way to your face, would you be flattered or disturbed? Compared to most people you know, are you stronger in the intensity and range of your feelings, milder, or somewhere in between? Whereas for centuries astute observers of the human condition have noted that people vary remarkably in this dimension — it's been the theme of many great novels — only recently have psychologists come to understand that this difference is already apparent on our first day of postnatal existence — and continues strikingly unchanged ever after. The vast realm of our feelings is clearly experienced differently by people across cultures. In terms of gender, in the Western world, historically women have been depicted as being more dominated by their feelings than men, for example; they're commonly thought of as making major decisions based on moods rather than hard facts. ____ 1. ____ 2. ____ 3. ____ 4. ____ 5.

Repressed Emotions Ryan Brown, ContributorWaking Times A common way in which we deal with unpleasant emotions is to suppress or ignore them. These are normal coping mechanisms our minds uses to handle situations we don’t particularly want to deal with in the present moment. When strong emotions come into our consciousness, there is often something inside of us which says, “This is going to ruin my happiness right now and I don’t like that, so I’ll just deal with it later.” The problem with this approach is that ‘later’ never comes and these emotions get pushed further down, out of our conscious awareness. It is a basic law of the universe that energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only change form. This ‘dust’ is actually emotional energy that resonates with the repressed emotion. This internal pressure of repressed emotions is what many of us are afraid to look at. When an emotional trauma occurs, there is the choice to either deal with it effectively or to turn away from it. The Good News