Why Parenting Styles Matter When Raising Children Parenting styles are constructs used to describe the different strategies parents tend to utilize when raising children. These styles encompass parents' behaviors and attitudes and the emotional environment in which they raise their children. Developmental psychologists have long been interested in how parents affect child development. However, finding actual cause-and-effect links between specific actions of parents and later behavior of children is very difficult. Some children raised in dramatically different environments can later grow up to have remarkably similar personalities. Conversely, children who share a home and are raised in the same environment can grow up to have very different personalities. Despite these challenges, researchers have posited that there are links between parenting styles and the effects these styles have on children. The Four Parenting Styles In the 1960s, psychologist Diana Baumrind conducted a study on more than 100 preschool-age children. Outcomes Vary
Parenting styles are to a certain extend; subjective Uninvolved Understanding Parenting Styles Can Help You Prepare Your Child for Life Every parent wants to be the best parent they can be and desires their children to be happy and successful in life. You may not believe it, but our children want to please us and desire our approval, even if sometimes they act like they don’t care! They are looking to us to affirm that they are the greatest children! So this is our window of opportunity to build that incredible bond with our children that would hopefully last for life. An important starting point is self-awareness — learning what kind of parent you are and why you parent the way you do will help you parent more effectively and avoid hurting your child in the process. As parents, how we behave, respond and react matters, as it affects how our children think of themselves and make sense of their everyday lives and the world around them. Research1 has identified 4 main parent types or parenting styles: Childhood is when our children learn to differentiate right from wrong. © 2018 Focus on the Family Singapore.
permissive or indulgent Different Parenting Styles: What Kind Of Parent Are You? “Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each.” -Plato As parents, our impact on our children is the greatest. As all of us individuals are different, it is natural for us to, therefore, be different also in our approach and ways of nurturing our children. During the early 1960s, Diana Baumrind, a renowned psychologist, conducted a study on more than 100 preschool-age children (Baumrind, 1967). Data was collected through mostly anecdotal records, observations and interviews with parents, Baumrind drew a link between two dimensions in parenting styles: authority versus responsiveness. Many research have pointed to the fact that high authoritative levels of parenting generally results in high levels of competencies in children. That, however, does not give vindication to say that we should all be “Tiger Dads and Tiger Mums”.
Authoritative Tailor parenting style to your child, Latest Singapore News "At the time, I chafed at such rigid structures... Yet, looking back, I realise how this sort of parenting helped me become the person I am today. The supervision, discipline and structure helped give me a form of security in my life." By conventional standards, my mother would be labelled a strict parent. Some might even call her a "tiger mother", a term that refers to parents who are demanding and push their children to attain success. The term became popular in describing Asian mothers' strict parenting techniques, after author Amy Chua published her autobiography Battle Hymn Of The Tiger Mother in 2011. My mother was always concerned with my grades. Before any Chinese exam, she would spend hours going over all the vocabulary words with me, emphasising that I could not get a single stroke of the characters wrong. She did all this, even though she barely spoke Mandarin and also struggled with the language in school. At the time, I chafed at such rigid structures... She gave it everything.
Authoritarian Many Singaporeans’ parenting style not helping children succeed - TODAYonline I was disturbed to read the report “MP proposes piloting cluster of schools without exams, streaming” (Jan 22). In the current debate on how best to restructure the education system, more people seem inclined to wash the outside of a dirty cup and call it clean, but leaving the inside filthy as ever. An examination-free education system would serve only to mask the inadequacies of the current generation of pupils, rather than help them to succeed. While some of the pressure they face is due to the existing system, my experience as an educator tells me that the root problem lies with the quality of young people now. Born into a world where advanced technology is at their fingertips, our children are accustomed to having everything quickly and with little effort. Many Singaporean parents lead busy, distracted lives and spend little quality time with their children. Part of the loving process is physical discipline.
demandingness/control Tiger mums, helicopter parents and modern child-rearing angst, Opinion News Growing up in the 1960s and 70s, I had what could be accurately called a carefree childhood. Mostly I was left to my own devices to entertain myself. I wasn't taught to read or write until I went to primary school nor was I enrolled in a kindergarten; I think now it was because my parents couldn't afford the additional expense (there were already four other children at school) and they probably felt that it was unnecessary. A few months into Primary 1, my form teacher asked to see my mother: She'd thought that I might be intellectually impaired. My mother listened passively to her and when we got home, she didn't say a word about this to me then and never after. My mother, who had a few years of formal education and could read and write only in Chinese, proceeded to coach me on that single subject and kept an eye out that I would complete whatever homework I was given - even though she couldn't understand most of the other subjects. There have been many calls for changes.