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How Not to Be Offended

How Not to Be Offended
Editor’s note: This post was written by Shemsi Prinzivalli. There is an ancient and well-kept secret to happiness which the Great Ones have known for centuries. They rarely talk about it, but they use it all the time, and it is fundamental to good mental health. This secret is called The Fine Art of Not Being Offended. In order to truly be a master of this art, one must be able to see that every statement, action and reaction of another human being is the sum result of their total life experience to date. Yes, this is psychodynamic. All of that said, almost nothing is personal. This frees us to be a little more detached from the reactions of people around us. This is also not to be confused with allowing ourselves to be hurt, neglected or taken advantage of. The great challenge of our world is to live a life of contentment, regardless of what other people do, say, think or believe. Source: “The Art of Not Being Offended,” from shemsi-prinzivalli.blogspot.gr

43 Mini-Meditations for Busy Moms – Spry Living Daily Health Solutions,Featured Article,Healthy Living by Anna DickensMay 6, 2013 When life gets frantic, take a time out with one of these quick, easy and totally effective mini-meditations. Feeling frazzled and overwhelmed by the demands of work life, home life and motherhood? We know what you’re thinking: “Me? RELATED: What’s the Right Type of Meditation for You? 1) Focus on your breath: Sit in a comfortable seated position, close your eyes, and simply pay attention to breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth. 2) Take a tune-out, 10-minute walk. 3) Repeat a “sacred word” such as “joy,” “love” or “peace,” suggests Dr. 4) Do a journal-writing session. 5) Shower away stress. 6) Think green: Put a flower or small green plant in your workplace. 7) Create something. 8) Try “listening with your eyes,” suggests Wright, in his book Mindful Solutions for Your Modern Life. 9) Go through a few sun salutations.

Ten Lies You’ll Hear Before Pursuing Your Dream (photo: salty_soul) Unfortunately, just before you take your first step on the righteous journey to pursue your dreams, people around you, even the ones who deeply care for you, will give you awful advice. It’s not because they have evil intentions. So they try to protect you by shielding you from the possibility of failure, which, in effect, also shields you from the possibility of making your dreams a reality. As our friend Steve Jobs says: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Here are ten ill-advised tips (lies) people will likely tell you when you decide to pursue your dreams and the reasons why they are dreadfully mistaken: 1. Someday? 2. Wrong! 3. Sure, I suppose. 4. It’s only impossible if you never do anything about it. 5. That’s because those lucky few got off their rear ends and did something about it! 6. Failures are simply stepping stones to success. 7. 8. You don’t need more money. 9. You are the sum of the people you spend the most time with.

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2. Work out Yes, along with getting up early, I’m asking you to get your booty moving in high gear too! I already made working out a habit, but didn't do it as early in the morning as I am now. If you're new to working out, I probably sound like a drill sergeant, but hear me out. Dealing with Covertly Aggressive Personalities Two Basic Types of Aggression There are two basic types of aggression: overt-aggression and covert-aggression. When you’re determined to have something and you’re open, direct and obvious in your manner of fighting, your behavior is best labeled overtly aggressive. When you’re out to “win,” dominate or control, but are subtle, underhanded or deceptive enough to hide your true intentions, your behavior is most appropriately labeled covertly aggressive. Now, avoiding any overt display of aggression while simultaneously intimidating others into giving you what you want is a powerfully manipulative maneuver. That’s why covert-aggression is most often the vehicle for interpersonal manipulation. Acts of Covert-Aggression vs. Most of us have engaged in some sort of covertly aggressive behavior from time to time. The tactics of deceit, manipulation and control are a steady diet for covert-aggressive personality. The Process of Victimization 1. 2. 3. 4. Recognizing Aggressive Agendas

5 Excuses that Keep You Unhealthy (and How to Destroy Them) Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Matt Frazier of No Meat Athlete. Each and every one of us, as a human being, is hardwired to choose the path of least resistance. We’re programmed to conserve energy for when we might need it and to avoid risk wherever possible, because that’s what it took for our ancestors to survive (and reproduce) in a world full of unknown dangers. Today, it’s why the status quo — tested, predictable, familiar — is so comfortable. I’m referring, of course, to our health. As Steven Pressfield and Seth Godin have so gracefully written, we procrastinate because somewhere deep down, we’re afraid to start. But when it comes to health, where we are isn’t safe. The excuses we use to justify one more pack of cigarettes, one more TV show, or another quick spin through the drive-through window (it’s convenient, and I had a rough day) are the tools of this fear. It’s time to cut through the haze. 1. Sure, planning is important. Maybe you do need all that stuff. 2. 3. 4.

Alternative Sleep Cycles: You Don’t Really Need 6-8 Hours! Most people only think that there is one way to sleep: Go to sleep at night for 6-8 hours, wake up in the morning, stay awake for 16-18 hours and then repeat. Actually, that is called a monophasic sleep cycle, which is only 1 of 5 major sleep cycles that have been used successfully throughout history. The other 4 are considered polyphasic sleep cycles due to the multiple number of naps they require each day. How is this possible? Well the most important of every sleep cycle is the Stage 4 REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep, which has been shown to provide the benefits of sleep to the brain above all other stages of sleep. This way, you still get the benefits of 8 hours of sleep without wasting all of the time it takes to get to REM cycles, resulting in a much more efficient sleep cycle. Uberman Cycle: 20 to 30 minute naps every 4 hours, resulting in 6 naps each day. Everyman Cycle: One longer “core” nap that is supplemented with several 20-30 minute naps. Dymaxion Cycle: Biphasic/Siesta Cycle:

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Image is Everything: The Secrets of Body Language Share this infographic on your site! <a href=” src=” alt=”Body Language” width=”500″ border=”0″ /></a><br />Source: <a href=” Image is Everything: The Secrets of Body Language At work, at home, at play, famous, or infamous, your body language tells the world all about you. How We Communicate: 93% of what we communicate is non-verbal Gestures 55% Voice 38% Words 7% A majority of what we communicate is through gestures and how we physically position our bodies. The Face: 7 Universal Expressions: Happiness Sadness Anger Fear Surprise Contempt Disgust There are over 3000 emotional expressions that we react to… And over 10,000 that we register. The Body: Open your body to face your audience. Sit up straight. (= in control of your emotions) vs. Crossing legs presents a “closed” view of yourself.

www.menshealth.com/mhlists/diy_health_remedies/printer.php Eating 10 hot dogs in 6 minutes and belching the national anthem may impress your friends, but neither of those feats will do much for your body—at least not much good. Instead, why not train yourself to do something that may actually pay off? We're not talking bench presses and interval training (though those do help). You can teach your body to cure itself from everyday health ailments—side stitches, first-date jitters, even hands that have fallen asleep. Just study this list, and the next time your friends challenge you to an ice cream eating contest, chow down: You know how to thaw a brain freeze—and 17 other tricks that'll make everyone think you're the next David Blaine. Do Them Right: To mazimize your workout, good form is a must. Cure a Tickling Throat When you were 9, playing your armpit was a cool trick. Experience Supersonic Hearing If you're stuck chatting up a mumbler at a cocktail party, lean in with your right ear. Overcome Your Most Primal Urge Need to pee? Feel No Pain

John Lennon's 20 Best Quotes In Celebration Of His 72nd Birthday October 9th is a big day for one of the first families of music. Not only is it the 37th birthday of John and Yoko's only son, Sean Lennon, John Lennon would have turned the ripe old age of 72 today. The late Beatles legend, who passed away at the age of 40, wrote some of the band's most famous songs and had an uncanny ability of speaking in timeless quips. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. CORRECTION: An earlier version of this post stated that Sean Lennon was 36. Photos courtesy of Robert Whitaker on behalf of LIFE Books Loading Slideshow Beatles Christmas Show in 1964, PgCaptured Moment From 1965 Christmas Special, PgsChiswick Park, PgFarringdon Studio in London, PgsHELP! Also on HuffPost:

60 Digital Media Resources You May Have Missed This sure has been another crazy week. Between Valentine's Day and the terrifying meteor that shook Russia, it is easy to understand how you could fall behind in other news. We at Mashable have rounded up the most important updates in tech and social media to keep you informed. So read below for tons of digital media resources, including coverage of Twitter's decision to place a value on your tweets, some new innovative apps and much more. Editor's Picks Pope Benedict XVI to Resign on February 28Pope Benedict XVI will resign on February 28, the Vatican announced.The Best Entrepreneurs Are Older, Have Less EgoWhat attributes does a founder need to make his or her startup thrive? Social Media For more social media news and resources, you can follow Mashable's social media channel on Twitter and become a fan on Facebook. Business & Marketing For more business news and resources, you can follow Mashable's business channel on Twitter and become a fan on Facebook. Tech & Mobile Lifestyle

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