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16 Ways I Blew My Marriage

16 Ways I Blew My Marriage
You know what blows big time? The other night I was sitting with my family, most of whom are very successfully married. We were going in a circle giving our best marriage advice to my little sister on the eve of her wedding. It’s somewhat of a family tradition. But that’s not what blows. And so, when it was my turn, I just made a joke about divorce and how you should always remember why you loved your spouse when you first met her so that when times get tough, you can find someone new that is just like she was. There were a couple courtesy giggles, but overall my humor wasn’t welcome in such a beautifully building ring of profundity. They finished round one, and for some reason started into another round. It eventually came to me again, and what I said would have been such great advice if I were a tenth as good at saying things as I was at writing them. And so, that night, I sat down and wrote out my “advice list” for my little sister. I call it my “Ways I Blew My Marriage” list. BONUS! Related:  SELF IMPROVEMENT.

10 Mind-Blowing Theories That Will Change Your Perception of the World Reality is not as obvious and simple as we like to think. Some of the things that we accept as true at face value are notoriously wrong. Scientists and philosophers have made every effort to change our common perceptions of it. 1. Great glaciation is the theory of the final state that our universe is heading toward. 2. Solipsism is a philosophical theory, which asserts that nothing exists but the individual’s consciousness. Don’t you believe me? As a result, which parts of existence can we not doubt? 3. George Berkeley, the father of Idealism, argued that everything exists as an idea in someone’s mind. The idea being that if the stone really only exists in his imagination, he could not have kicked it with his eyes closed. 4. Everybody has heard of Plato. In addition to this stunning statement, Plato, being a monist, said that everything is made of a single substance. 5. 6. Enternalism is the exact opposite of presentism. 7. So, what is the debate? 8. What’s the point? 9. 10.

Men Have Periods Too! Please read the entire thing, however, for those of you who are excited to hear that men have periods too and need to read that section right away to feel good about yourself then scroll down below to the part that says: BUT NEWS FLASH PEOPLE - - MEN HAVE PERIODS TOO! and you will find all the information to back it up! I am so tired of guys belittling the idea of a woman's period during a fight and using that as a reason for why we are "irrational," "overreacting," or even "raging." Ok, first off, let's talk about PMS or Premenstrual Syndrome. ... Symptoms of PMS include but are not limited to:Abdominal bloatingAbdominal crampsBreast tenderness or swellingStress or anxietyAggressionTrouble falling asleep (insomnia)Joint or muscle painInability to finish thoughtsHeadacheFatigueAcneExtreme tearfulnessMood swingsWorsening of existing skin disorders, and respiratory (eg, allergies, infection) or eye (bulbar disturbances, conjunctivitis) problems ... So what causes PMS? Don't believe me? ...

Relationship Rules Human beings crave intimacy, need to love and be loved. Yet people have much trouble doing so. It's clear from the many letters I get that lots of folks have no idea what a healthy relationship even looks like. Because I care about these things, and care about the environments children grow in, I'm using this space as an attempt to remedy the problem—again. From many sources and many experts, I have culled some basic rules of relationships. Choose a partner wisely and well. Thinking vs. Feeling: The Psychology of Advertising Do ads with facts work better than ads that appeal through emotion and aspiration? Shutterstock Imagine two commercials for a new light beer. The second ad starts in a bar. You can probably guess where I'm going here. So what does science really know about advertising? Here's a good example from Clay Warren, director of the Communications Program at George Washington University. The literature on rational versus affective advertising is very long and mostly inconclusive. If this sounds basically intuitive, then good. The most successful ads -- in the eyes of advertisers at least -- have broad emotional and cognitive appeal. "In 2004, Goody, Silverstein & Partners, developed what would be a "Campaign of the Year" for Hewlett Packard's digital photography," he wrote in an email. So, given that we are capable of both rational and irrational behavior, what's more effective: rational ads or affective ads?

Why Do Girls Love Shopping So Much? "You know that thing when you see someone cute and he smiles and your heart kind of goes like warm butter sliding down hot toast? Well that's what it's like when I see a store. Only it's better." - Rebecca Bloomwood, Confessions of a Shopaholic Comparing a physical attraction to buying something seems a little far-fetched, doesn't it? What Does Science Have To Say Most men (and I say men because they always seem bewildered by our love for buying things) tend to think that our indulgence in malls has to do with an emotional weakness, our inability to resist pretty things, our need to have what the another woman has, and also an excuse to just spend some time with our girls. Scientists have spent a lot of time trying to figure out the seemingly irrational love women have for shopping. Millennia later the basics remain the same. So the next time you wonder why we enjoy shopping so much, remember that even science agrees that it is a genetic flaw that we have to look for the best.

6 Ways To Deal With Your Spouse's Annoying Habits SPECIAL FROM Next Avenue By Teri Orbuch When couples spend more time together, little annoyances become magnified. Amy came to see me as a relationship therapist last year. Over the years, they had weathered more than their share of challenges and survived. “Even though we were stressed to the max at times, I really think the life-changing crises made our marriage stronger,” Amy told me. Naturally, I was waiting for the “but … ” And of course there was one. Amy told me she couldn’t stop herself from snapping at him. I asked her to tell me what he does that is so egregious. We discussed the importance of these habits relative to her deeper feelings about José. Amy was smart to come to me when she did. In my long-term study of married couples, I found over and over again that these seemingly inocuous behaviors are what created more troublesome marital rifts than monumental events. (MORE: Relationship Rescue: Getting Your Needs Met) 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Earlier on Huff/Post50:

Top 40 Useful Sites To Learn New Skills The web is a powerful resource that can easily help you learn new skills. You just have to know where to look. Sure, you can use Google, Yahoo, or Bing to search for sites where you can learn new skills , but I figured I’d save you some time. Here are the top 40 sites I have personally used over the last few years when I want to learn something new. Hack a Day - Hack a Day serves up fresh hacks (short tutorials) every day from around the web and one in-depth ‘How-To hack’ guide each week.eHow - eHow is an online community dedicated to providing visitors the ability to research, share, and discuss solutions and tips for completing day-to-day tasks and projects.Wired How-To Wiki - Collaborate with Wired editors and help them build their extensive library of projects, hacks, tricks and tips.

Rock the Party: How to Appear Friendly and Approachable It’s natural to experience nervousness when meeting new people. So much hangs in the balance of that delicate first impression. Act the wrong way and you might be perceived as stupid, weird, or worst of all, the dreaded creepy. To prevent this from happening, its important to understand body language and the way it affects perception. The Basics of Body Language The idea of reading body language can seem like voodoo, but the truth is you’re already doing it. Do you ever have impressions of people that don’t seem justified? Once you start paying attention, these signal are easy to spot. Projecting Openness The key to appearing friendly and approachable is projecting openness. Arms at sides (as opposed to crossed).Outward facing palmsLegs stretched out and uncrossedElbows away from the bodyLeaning forward (like you’re interested)Standing straight (no slouching) If you are in a good mood and open to meeting people, you’ll naturally have open body language. Eye Contact Engaging in Conversation

6 Summer Bunk Bed Rooms Whether you have a large family or a busy summer house, a bunk room is an ideal solution for accommodating lots of guests. Here are some of our favorites. This nautical-inspired bunk room in a Hamptons home by Steven Gambrel features lots of room for storage with built-ins and under-bed drawers. Custom netting provides safety for the top bunks. An absolutely gorgeous bunk room from the Lerer House in Park City, Utah. This bunk room in an Alys Beach, Florida vacation rental home features a unique L-shaped layout for the beds. Coastal Living's 2009 Seawatch Idea House at Sunset Harbor, North Carolina featured this amazing bunk room for children.

"Life-Changing Books" We asked our readers what books made the biggest difference in their lives, and here’s what they had to say. The list below tells you what books shaped their lives and why. 1984 – George Orwell 1984 “was the first book I actually enjoyed reading. A Short History of Nearly Everything – Bill Bryson “Wow this book is incredible. Ariel – Sylvia Plath “After reading through these suggestions, I realized there’s a big hole: Poetry! Cat’s Cradle – Kurt Vonnegut “This book reignited the pilot light of my imagination like no other book had done in quite awhile. Crooked Cucumber – The Life and Zen Teaching of Shunryu Suzuki “Although I am not practicing Zen (yet), this book is like my Bible in that I plan to always read over it and reflect upon the messages therein. Disturbing the Peace – Vaclav Havel “I read it as a junior in high school, picked up on the bargain pile at a B. Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close – Jonathan Safran Foer Great Expectations – Charles Dickens Hiroshima – John Hersey –“Epic.

How to Improve Your Social Skills: 8 Tips from the Last 2500 Years Image by nogoodphotography. One source for pretty reliable advice is what has been repeated. Not what’s been repeated throughout your life but throughout history. I think this applies to tips on improving your social skills. 1. “Nature gave us one tongue and two ears so we could hear twice as much as we speak.”Epictetus “The less you speak, the more you will hear.” This is probably one of the most underappreciated social skills. How do you get past it? One useful way that I have found is to just forget about yourself. If you start to actually listen to what people are saying it also becomes easier to find potential paths in the conversation. And this ties into the next tip… 2. “You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. If you become more interested in people then you’ll naturally become a better listener since you are actually interested in what’s on their minds. 3. 4. 5.

A completely renovated first apartment Pages Search Eames Lounge Chair, Barcelona Chair, Marble Tulip Tables - Exclusive at Rove Concepts Colorado real estate and homes Kim's personal links MY FAVOURITE DECOR SHOPS IN OTTAWA kitchen remodel in my last house my twin sister's mostly kid's rooms decor blog « WINKS | Main | Valerie and Alan's bathroom remodel » Friday Aug132010 A completely renovated first apartment Posted on Fri, 13 Aug 2010 by kim 540 Comments We received an email from Ron and it started off like this: "I'm 27 years old and live in Tel Aviv Israel, currently an industrial design student. And some info on what went on after they had their way with their new apartment: "In short we re-did the whole place:Tore down the wall in the kitchen opening it up to the living room and dining area. I cannot even put into words how in awe I am of Ron's talent. And SO MUCH MORE after the jump. Reader Comments (540) Wow! 13 Aug 2010 | Mike The green bedroom is fabulous! Michelle Okay, that faucet/towel rack in the bathroom is genius! Erin Racu ab m

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