How to Be Charismatic: 7 Powerful Tips from the Mentalist

Image by CielChen (license). My favourite new TV-show is The Mentalist. One of my favourite little interests over the last year or so has been to try to figure out why some people stand out, why they are charismatic. Now, if you have seen the Mentalist – a show about a former fake psychic who’s really good at reading people and helps the police out with solving a weekly murder case – then you have probably seen how charismatic Simon Baker is in the lead role. And even if you haven’t, this article just draws some inspiration that show. Also, I think being charismatic is about being a better you and bringing out more of yourself with less self-censoring. Find your own variation by exploring yourself. 1. Yes, this sounds really obvious. Charismatic people often seem to smile a whole lot. And, even if you don’t always feel like smiling do it from time to time anyway (not all the time though of course, that’s just weird). 2. Here’s a classic tip from Dale Carnegie: 3. Focus on your breathing.

Why Thought Suppression is Counter-Productive How pushing a thought out of consciousness can bring it back with a vengeance. It sometimes feels like our minds are not on the same team as us. I want to go to sleep, but it wants to keep me awake rerunning events from my childhood. This internal battle can be anything from the attempt to suppress an occasional minor irritation (did I turn off the cooker?) The classic response to this mental wrangling — whether relatively trivial or deadly serious — is to try and forget about it, push it to the back of our minds or some other variation on the theme. Thought rebound In the study that kicked off research in this area Professor Daniel Wegner and colleagues investigated the effects of thought suppression (Wegner et al., 1987). Participants who first tried to suppress their thoughts rang the bell almost twice as often as participants in a control group. Suppressing emotions Back with a vengeance Substance cravings. Our disobedient minds [Image credits: kaneda99 & tilaneseven & kaneda99 & kygp]

25 Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself Feeling less than motivated all too often? I do. Well, perhaps not too often. But sometimes I just feel really lazy and unmotivated. Want some practical solutions to that universal motivation-problem? Let me know which ones work well for you. I’m sure you’ll find at least one or two that do just that among these suggestions. 1. 2. 3. What am I ______ about in my life right now? Put in your own value in the blank space. What am I happy about in my life right now? It’s important that you really feel how it makes you feel. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. Reviewing your results is important so you see where you have gone wrong in the past to avoid similar missteps further on. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. Also, try to find the valuable lesson(s) in each of your failures. 14. When you know what has happened to others in similar situations – what path they have walked – you can adapt and try their solutions (and personal variations of those) and your own. 15. 16. 17. 18.

60 Small Ways to Improve Your Life in the Next 100 Days Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to make drastic changes in order to notice an improvement in the quality of your life. At the same time, you don’t need to wait a long time in order to see the measurable results that come from taking positive action. All you have to do is take small steps, and take them consistently, for a period of 100 days. Below you’ll find 60 small ways to improve all areas of your life in the next 100 days. Home 1. Day 1: Declutter MagazinesDay 2: Declutter DVD’sDay 3: Declutter booksDay 4: Declutter kitchen appliances 2. If you take it out, put it back.If you open it, close it.If you throw it down, pick it up.If you take it off, hang it up. 3. A burnt light bulb that needs to be changed.A button that’s missing on your favorite shirt.The fact that every time you open your top kitchen cabinet all of the plastic food containers fall out. Happiness 4. 5. 6. How many times do you beat yourself up during the day? 7. Learning/Personal Development 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13.

6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person #3. You Hate Yourself Because You Don't Do Anything Getty "So, what, you're saying that I should pick up a book on how to get girls?" Only if step one in the book is "Start making yourself into the type of person girls want to be around." Getty"Come ooooon. Because that's the step that gets skipped -- it's always "How can I get a job?" "But why can't I find someone who just likes me for me?" Here's another video (NSFW): Everyone who watched that video instantly became a little happier, although not all for the same reasons. "But I'm not good at anything!" Don't like the prospect of pouring all of that time into a skill? The bad news is that you have no other choice. Because in my non-expert opinion, you don't hate yourself because you have low self-esteem, or because other people were mean to you. GettyStep One: Get up. Do the math: How much of your time is spent consuming things other people made (TV, music, video games, websites) versus making your own? #2. But really, does that matter?

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