Emotional Outbursts and Your Relationships - Venting Your Feelings in a Healthy Way You have most likely heard of the Universal Law of Karma that claims "What goes around, comes around." Okay, great! But now let's say you totally buy into this idea of karma and you even take pride in how you live your life under this axiom. You choose to demonstrate integrity in your decisions and actions, and to show kindness and understanding instead of callousness, deceit, or other "ugly" behaviors and attitudes. Have you ever displayed impatience or frustration with your spouse, friend, or family member for no apparent reason? Venting Your Feelings in a Healthy Way It is healthy to allow ourselves to step outside of our nice postures and exhibit the not-so-nice side of our personalities now and again. Receiving sympathy and understanding from others when we are in turmoil is comforting. Emotional Checks and Balances Ask yourself these questions: Are your emotions being validated? Paul Bradbury / Getty Images
How to Restrain Yourself from an Outburst: 17 Steps Edit Article Immediate self-restraintFuture, ongoing self-restraint Edited by SugaryFlare, Teresa, Flickety, Zareen and 14 others Everybody gets angry at times. Having an outburst is nothing but negative––it's something to expect in toddlers, who have very limited ways to express themselves. Ad Steps Method 1 of 2: Immediate self-restraint 1Realize when you're about to burst. 10The next day, forget about the actual incident. Method 2 of 2: Future, ongoing self-restraint 1Learn from your experience. 7Read about emotional intelligence and the ways in which you can enhance yours. Tips Be aware that while some people are easily annoyed when things don't go their own way, other people are more sensitive than others to noise, crowds, fatigue, hunger, etc., which can mean they get upset or angry more quickly. Warnings Are you aware that you might be carrying around deep-seated anger?
How to Gain Control of Your Emotions: 14 Steps Steps Part 1 of 3: Controlling Emotions, Not Letting Emotions Control You 1Know your emotions. There are a million different ways you can feel, but scientists have classified human emotions into a few basics that everyone can recognize: joy, acceptance, fear, surprise, sadness, disgust, anger, and anticipation Jealousy, for example, is a manifestation of fear - fear that you're not "as good" as something else, fear of being abandoned because you're not "perfect" or "the best." 6Consider your options. Part 2 of 3: Recognizing Ideas that Cause Negative Emotions 1Change your perspective. Part 3 of 3: Recognizing Ideas that Make Negative Emotions Worse 1Learn to avoid the cognitive distortions which make things look worse than they really are. Tips Ad Warnings It is important to control your emotions, but suppressing them or denying that they exist is entirely different. Sources and Citations American Psychiatric Association (2000).
Accuracy of Self-Knowledge How pathetically scanty my self-knowledge is compared with, say, my knowledge of my room. There is no such thing as observation of the inner world, as there is of the outer world. ~ Kafka Social psychologists and other mortals are hypnotized by the Delphic demand to Know thyself. Actually, it was not the oracle speaking, but probably a sophist prince who put these words on the front of the temple of Apollo. Social psychology supports a cottage industry dedicated to the case of human ignorance. What to make of a correlation of .3? Yet, many people think the accuracy correlation should be higher. Zell & Krizan’s finding that the average accuracy correlation is .3 is interesting, but of little theoretical relevance. In sum, Zell & Krizan provide and interesting, if theoretically bland, overview and integration of the voluminous literature on the accuracy of self-perception.
Become Comfortable With All Your Emotions Ride the Wild Horse teaches you how to: get in touch with your emotions live with emotional intensity manage unpleasant or threatening feelings stay calm and focused even in upsetting situations Beyond relaxation The goal of the Ride the Wild Horse meditation is not simply to relax, but to become more aware of the feeling sensations—both emotional and physical—throughout your body. As you’ve already learned, many of us have subconsciously learned to numb and dampen our feelings. You’ll also recover long-buried emotions and learn to feel comfortable with them. If you fear the outcome of intense emotions, understand that learning to mindfully experience strong feelings like anger can give you the ability to contain your emotions and control your behavior. Setting the stage Set the stage for learning to ride the wild horse by creating a safe private space—a space that’s pleasant and energizing, where you won’t be disturbed. Turn off your phone and lock the door if you need to. Before you start
MSCEIT™ - Mayer-Salovey-Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test John D. Mayer, Ph.D., Peter Salovey, Ph.D., & David R. Caruso, Ph.D. Description Developed by academics at Yale and the University of New Hampshire in cooperation with MHS, the Mayer-Salovey-Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test (MSCEIT™) evaluates Emotional Intelligence through a series of objective and impersonal questions. The MSCEIT test uses a variety of interesting and creative tasks to measure a person’s capacity for reasoning with emotional information by directly testing their ability. Scales & Forms
Stephen Covey on Developing Emotional Intelligence “I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ? Oscar Wilde Emotional Intelligence is essentially an ability, capacity, or skill to assess, manage, and regulate the emotions of yourself and others. Why is emotional intelligence such a big deal? … If you can’t manage your emotions, you crumble or snap under stress. If you can’t tune into others’ emotions and demonstrate empathy, you’ll have a hard time connecting with others. Yeah, emotional intelligence is a big deal. It’s a key for leaders and it’s a key for leadership. “”No one cares how much you know until they first know how much you care about them.” In the book, The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness, Stephen Covey acknowledges that there’s a lack of literature on how to develop emotional intelligence, and shares an approach for how to develop emotional intelligence using the 7 Habits. The Five Primary Components of Emotional Intelligence The 7 Habits and Principles
Leadership and EQ - RealTime Leadership In the past, it might have been true that leaders could succeed simply because they were smart. But that’s no longer all it takes. While technical skills remain important, our emotional intelligence (referred to as EQ or EI) is just as important as our IQ. Daniel Goleman, a thought-leader on the topic of EI, says this about emotional intelligence: “If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” Although it takes some effort to improve or enhance our EQ, the end results – better relationships, as well as a higher potential for personal and professional success – are worth it. Self-awareness: • Name your emotions as you experience them. • Take note of your inner dialogue. Understanding and accessing our EI requires practice.
Leading With Heart Centred Emotional Intelligence - Dee Harding | The Coaching Academy Blog Dee Harding asks – what has heart-centred emotional intelligence got to do with leadership? “Emotional Intelligence is more important than IQ in almost every role and many times more important in leadership roles” – Steve Covey Our ever changing world requires a new kind of thinking about what it takes to be an inspiring leader. The attributes traditionally considered necessary to be an effective leader are no longer enough. The truly outstanding leader in the 21 century must also have also a high degree of heart centred emotional intelligence. It was Daniel Goleman, who first brought and applied the concept of emotional intelligence to leadership. You need it but it doesn’t make you a star. What sets star performers apart from average performers, aren’t the technical skills or a high IQ but good communication and people skills. A fundamental change in work place organisations is taking place. What is heart centred emotional intelligence? Competencies of emotional intelligence 3.) 4.)