10 things you might not know about love

1. It can be hard to talk about love in scientific terms because people have strong pre-existing ideas about it. The vision of love that emerges from the latest science requires a radical shift. I learned that I need to ask people to step back from their current views of love long enough to consider it from a different perspective: their body's perspective. Love is not romance. It's not sexual desire. And perhaps most challenging of all, love is neither lasting nor unconditional. 2. We tend to think of love in the same breath as loved ones. In reality, you can experience micro-moments of connection with anyone -- whether your soul mate or a stranger. 3. We tend to think of emotions as private events, confined to one person's mind and skin. 4. Your body has the built-in ability to "catch" the emotions of those around you, making your prospects for love -- defined as micro-moments of positivity resonance -- nearly limitless. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.

What Queerness Means To Me « Tranarchism I remember playing pretend games with my brother when he was really little. For a happy ending to one epic struggle of good versus evil, he wanted all the dolls/“action figures” to “all get married together”—boys, girls, witches, dragons, demons, whatever, united in a big happy pansexual polygamous clusterfuck. I remember explaining to him that you couldn’t do that, that marriage was between two people, usually a man and a woman. Forgive me. The innocence of children with regard to love, romance, gender, friendship and relationships is truly beautiful. I lost it. But my own angsty odyssey of identity isn’t really what I want to talk about. Isn’t it weird that we’re all supposed to feel one way about friends, another about family, and another about lovers? Queerness, to me, is about far more than homosexual attraction. This is a somewhat controversial stance, but to me queer means something completely different than “gay” or “lesbian” or “bisexual.” At least, that is what it means to me.