Date Rape: Just "A Disagreement Between Two Lovers" While I'm categorically averse to terms like gray rape because they essentially serve to tease out some bit of unnecessarily complicated nuance in what is possibly the easiest concept in the history of the world, I'm also not a fan of the term "date rape," either. Its ostensible purpose is admirable—to convey the ideas that rape is not just a masked man jumping out of the bushes forcing a woman at gunpoint to submit to his will, and that not all rape victims look like they've been brutalized. But, functionally, the term tends to instead reinforce the erroneous notion that not all rape is equal. Case in point [via Samhita]: Date rape should be treated differently from attacks on women by strangers, John Redwood has said.The former cabinet minister - now a senior Tory party adviser - suggested rape accusations made by women against their partners should be treated as "disagreements" between lovers. Actually, no, there isn't. But this is wrong. Rape needs to be called rape.
Je ne supporte plus vos abjections au sujet du viol *Les passages en italique correspondent aux commentaires cités Donc il y a ce passage (1/9 du texte) de mon dernier article qui relate qu'après avoir passé la soirée avec un groupe de mecs que je ne connaissais pas très bien, j'ai préféré partir malgré le froid et le fait que je n'avais nulle part où aller (Le texte se déroule à une époque où j'étais SDF, vous pouvez le lire ici pour mieux comprendre de quoi il s'agit), et puis y'a ce commentaire d'un courageux anonyme qui tombe. Il chouine parce que je suis trop méchante d'assimiler groupe de mecs et viol, et que putain, il en a marre de toujours lire ce genre d'histoires où les relations humaines sont réduites à des coups. Et puis que merde, SYSTEMATIQUEMENT, on assimile groupe de mecs et viol, et qu'on s'en sort plus dans la vie quoi. Et d'ajouter un petit poncif sur le sexe qui serait toujours un délice et "pas systématiquement un viol". (Sans déconner?) Oh oh calmez vous un peu hein.
« Violez-la ! » Polémique après une interview d’Aldo Naouri dans Elle | Une Vigie Rue69 A chaque fois que le pédiatre star Aldo Naouri sort un nouveau livre, il a droit à une grande interview complaisante dans Elle. C’est encore le cas cette fois-ci. L’entretien est cosigné par la directrice du magazine, Valérie Toranian. Sauf que l’opération promotionnelle a provoqué une pétition de lecteurs indignés par l’échange suivant : Elle : « Dans votre livre, vous évoquez ces mères entièrement dévouées et qui ne font plus l’amour après la naissance de leur bébé. Puis le papotage mondain se poursuit, l’air de rien, sur un autre sujet : le « mariage pour tous ». Après avoir expliqué à ses lectrices qu’elles avaient raté leur vie si elles n’avaient pas eu d’expérience lesbienne à 40 ans, puis ramé pour assurer que c’était du second degré, Mamie ELLE a encore craqué. Mise à jour à 20h50 : Elle a fini par réagir à la polémique. « Certains internautes ont lu, à la fois dans la question posée et dans la réponse du pédiatre une “ incitation au viol ”. Lire sur Acontrario.net
Viol: la faute aux violeurs Le viol, ce fléau. Celui qui empêche les jeunes filles de bonne famille de sortir de chez elles, et les enferme dans la terreur de l’inconnu, de la nuit, de l’obscurité. Mais pas d’inquiétude, braves gens, la justice veille. Mais moi, les pleurnicheries, je m’en fous. Petit résumé des mythes sur le viol On le voit, le viol dans l’imaginaire collectif se pare de tout un folklore effrayant. Ce qu’il me semble important de souligner, c’est que, comme d’autres formes de violences infligées aux femmes par les hommes, le viol est une conséquence logique de l’éducation, de la culture des genres et de toutes les croyances qu’on nous inculque autour du sexe. Dans l’imaginaire collectif, le viol est presque considéré comme du « sexe normal ». Mais on ne veut pas le comprendre, le violeur. Pourtant nous nions. Ainsi, en croyant nous unir contre l’adversité, nous nous lions dans la complicité. (2) Le fantasme du « chat » était, en gros, de séduire une femme en la violant.
Are sex offenders and lads’ mags using the same language? Tuesday 6 December 2011 Far from being harmless or ironic fun, lads’ mags could be legitimising hostile sexist attitudes, according to new research. Psychologists from Middlesex University and the University of Surrey found that when presented with descriptions of women taken from lads’ mags, and comments about women made by convicted rapists, most people who took part in the study could not distinguish the source of the quotes. The research due to be published in the British Journal of Psychology also revealed that most men who took part in the study identified themselves more with the language expressed by the convicted rapists. Psychologists presented men between the ages of 18 and 46 with a range of statements taken from magazines and from convicted rapists in the study, and gave the men different information about the source of the quotes. He added that young men should be given credible sex education and not have to rely on lads’ mags as a source of information as they grow up.
Rapists Admit Repeated Rapes - As Long As You Don't Call It "Rape" I think part of this is due to the fact that men experience sex, and life, very differently than women do (obviously-and I'm only speaking about hetero sex here. They've been taught that rape is evil and bad and damaging, and they believe that. But, when they use coercive means to get sex, or even physically overpower a woman, if they haven't done any physical damage they can brush it off as not that big of a deal because to them it was something that lasted a few minutes and it's over and whatever, it was just sex, you're not hurt, where's the big problem? Men really need to be made more aware of the implications and effects of these things on the victim and be taught to recognize their privelleged position in society. I wish I had a good idea on how to make that happen, but I don't.
Rapists Who Don’t Think They’re Rapists You know the guy who "accidentally" rapes women? The acquaintance who "misreads" the situation and "goes too far"? The longtime friend who genuinely thought you had consented, and is shocked when you tell him that, no, it was rape? Thomas looks at a study of 1882 college students who were asked four questions to determine if they had ever raped (or attempted to rape) anyone: 1) Have you ever attempted unsuccessfully to have intercourse with an adult by force or threat of force? Questions like these are bound to lead to underreporting—what guy is going to admit to forcing a girl to give him head? If a survey asks men, for example, if they ever “had sexual intercourse with someone, even though they did not want to, because they were too intoxicated (on alcohol or drugs) to resist your sexual advances,” some of them will say yes, as long as the questions don’t use the “R” word. Of the 120 rapists in the sample, 44 reported only one assault. What does this mean about our "accidental" rapists?
“Nice Guys” Contribute to Rape Culture Daniel Tosh makes jokes that support rape culture and he’s defended as a “nice guy” while feminists are threatened with rape for pointing it out. Joe Paterno is accused of participating in a cover up of child rape and his “legend” legacy is defended while Sandusky’s victims are slandered. Misconceptions about sexual and domestic violence persist, despite feminists’ best efforts to educate the public. Feminist women have taught me many things. It seems the stereotype of rapists has a counterpart–the stereotype of those who perpetuate and benefit from rape culture. Daniel Tosh tells jokes that trivialize rape and his apologists explain that it’s our fault if we are “offended,” citing free speech as his defense. I’m less interested in the “did he or didn’t he” of this particular example of rape culture perpetuation, more the systemic effect of rape culture on rape victims, and the permissiveness and forgiveness that rape culture brings to guys like Tosh–and me.