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How not to say the wrong thing

How not to say the wrong thing
(Illustration by Wes Bausmith…) When Susan had breast cancer, we heard a lot of lame remarks, but our favorite came from one of Susan's colleagues. She wanted, she needed, to visit Susan after the surgery, but Susan didn't feel like having visitors, and she said so. Her colleague's response? "It's not?" The same theme came up again when our friend Katie had a brain aneurysm. YEAR IN REVIEW: 10 tips for a better life from The Times' Op-Ed pages in 2013 This woman loves Katie, and she said what she did because the sight of Katie in this condition moved her so deeply. Susan has since developed a simple technique to help people avoid this mistake. Draw a circle. Here are the rules. Everyone else can say those things too, but only to people in larger rings. When you are talking to a person in a ring smaller than yours, someone closer to the center of the crisis, the goal is to help. Comfort IN, dump OUT. Complaining to someone in a smaller ring than yours doesn't do either of you any good. Related:  à trier !KEEPERS

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Church Members Mistreat Homeless Man in Church Unaware It Is Their Pastor in Disguise Pastor Jeremiah Steepek transformed himself into a homeless person and went to the 10,000 member church that he was to be introduced as the head pastor at that morning. He walked around his soon to be church for 30 minutes while it was filling with people for service, only 3 people out of the 7-10,000 people said hello to him. He asked people for change to buy food – no one in the church gave him change. He went into the sanctuary to sit down in the front of the church and was asked by the ushers if he would please sit in the back. He greeted people to be greeted back with stares and dirty looks, with people looking down on him and judging him. As he sat in the back of the church, he listened to the church announcements and such. When all that was done, the elders went up and were excited to introduce the new pastor of the church to the congregation. “We would like to introduce to you Pastor Jeremiah Steepek.” The homeless man sitting in the back stood up and started walking down the aisle.

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The Hard Part They never tell you in teacher school, and it's rarely discussed elsewhere. It is never, ever portrayed in movies and tv shows about teaching. Teachers rarely bring it up around non-teachers for fear it will make us look weak or inadequate. Valerie Strauss in the Washington Post once put together a series of quotes to answer the question "How hard is teaching?" The hard part of teaching is coming to grips with this: There is never enough. There is never enough time. As a teacher, you can see what a perfect job in your classroom would look like. You know all this, but you can also do the math. 110 papers about the view of death in American Romantic writing times 15 minutes to respond with thoughtful written comments equals -- wait! If you are going to take any control of your professional life, you have to make some hard, conscious decisions. Every year you get better. But every day is still educational triage. Not everybody can deal with this. Here's your metaphor for the day. Trust us.

moodgym - FAQ moodgym was originally developed and evaluated over 15 years by researchers at the Australian National University. The principal authors of the content were Professor Helen Christensen and Professor Kathy Griffiths, who first scripted moodgym in 2001. Other staff provided clinical, technical and design expertise, and young people from the community provided feedback. The development and delivery of moodgym is now undertaken by e-hub Health – an ANU spin-off company managed by the senior moodgym team. Since its launch in 2001, moodgym has been extensively evaluated in a number of research trials undertaken by research groups around the world. A study in England found that use of moodgym as an adjunct to GP care did not substantially improve depression outcomes compared with usual GP care alone1. moodgym has also been shown to have a number of secondary benefits. 1. The new version of moodygm is also available in German.

The Hard Part | Peter Greene They never tell you in teacher school, and it’s rarely discussed elsewhere. It is never, ever portrayed in movies and tv shows about teaching. Teachers rarely bring it up around non-teachers for fear it will make us look weak or inadequate. Valerie Strauss in the Washington Post once put together a series of quotes to answer the question “How hard is teaching?” and asked for more in the comments section. My rant didn’t entirely fit there, so I’m putting it here, because it is on the list of Top Ten Things They Never Tell You in Teacher School. The hard part of teaching is coming to grips with this: There is never enough. There is never enough time. As a teacher, you can see what a perfect job in your classroom would look like. You know all this, but you can also do the math. 110 papers about the view of death in American Romantic writing times 15 minutes to respond with thoughtful written comments equals — wait! Every year you get better. But every day is still educational triage.

Urbanismo e Habitação, EM PDM de Vila Nova de GaiaRegulamentoPlanta de ordenamentoPlanta de condicionantesElementos que acompanham o planoOutros ElementosMapa Interativo PDM de Vila Nova de Gaia Os resultados da discussão pública da proposta de revisão do Plano Director Municipal (PDM) de Vila Nova de Gaia, foram divulgados através do “Relatório de Análise e Ponderação das Participações Recebidas no Período de Discussão Pública”, disponibilizado para consulta nas instalações da Gaiurb, On-line, na presente página e na comunicação social (com avisos em jornais nacionais e locais). A proposta de revisão do PDM contendo os resultados da ponderação da discussão pública foi aprovada nas reuniões públicas de Câmara de 01-06-2009 e 15-06-2009. De seguida e nos termos do artigo 79º do RJIGT, a Assembleia Municipal aprovou no dia 30-07-2009, todo o conteúdo documental da proposta final de revisão do PDM de Vila Nova de Gaia, On-line, na presente página. Regulamento Planta de ordenamento Para abrir os documentos PDF

Gregory Project concept envisions billboards to house the homeless The Gregory Project, by DesignDevelop (Image: DesignDevelop) Image Gallery (16 images) Gizmag is no stranger to projects which aim to turn the ubiquitous billboard into something more interesting, including an air-purifying billboard, and an artist's retreat. View all From the renders provided, the interior of the billboard looks small but relatively luxurious, and is split into two rooms. DesignDevelop told Gizmag that, since the billboard homes would be placed close to accommodated areas, there would be the possibility to connect them to local electricity, plumbing and water facilities. The project remains a concept at present, but DesignDevelop envisions that the Slovakian city of Banska Bystrica could see the first rollout of the Gregory Project, and it is hoped that the design could eventually spread worldwide. Sources: Gregory Project, DesignDevelop About the Author Adam is a tech and music writer based in North Wales. Post a CommentRelated Articles

Moradia T4 a 1km da Praia e 1,7km da Douro Marina - KWPT520926 Uma excelente moradia, situada numa zona tranquila, próxima das praias da freguesia de Canidelo, consideradas das melhores da região norte do país, como o comprova as suas classificações com a "Bandeira Azul"! A 1km/11min a pé/3min de carro da praia de Lavadores. Apesar de estar inserida numa zona residencial tranquila, possui serviços e transportes públicos, encontra-se próxima da Rua da Bélgica, marginal e reserva natural do Estuário do Douro (a 650m/8min a pé). Convidados a visitá-la, facilmente nos apercebemos de que é uma habitação com áreas amplas, bem distribuídas e muito confortável. A moradia distribui-se da seguinte forma: Rés-do-chão: - agradável hall de entrada com muita luz natural; - sala com recuperador de calor e varanda que permite contemplar o jardim bem cuidado e harmonioso; - cozinha mobilada e equipada integralmente, com despensa, amplas janelas, acesso ao exterior e casa de banho completa (apoio social); 1º Andar: - quarto com roupeiro embutido, orientado a nascente;

The Inside Of This Billboard Will Astonish You Now here's a good sign. Project Gregory in Slovakia has designed a roadside billboard that doubles as a house for the homeless. According to the project's website, the space is triangular in shape to allow for signage that faces drivers in both directions. There's room enough for a living area with kitchen, desk and bed, plus a bathroom. (Story continues below.) The structure would require "minimal maintenance cost" that could be partially paid through the rental of the advertising platform, the Project Gregory website notes. The concept, also called the Gregory Project by some outlets, was proposed by a man named Gregory who wishes to remain anonymous, Matej Nedorolík of DesignDevelop -- the firm behind the initiative -- said in an email to The Huffington Post. "We would try our best to make it a reality," Nedorolík said on behalf of Gregory. Tell us what you think of the idea in the comments, or tweet us @HuffPostImpact. (Hat tip, AdWeek)

A sort of Ms. Manners on How to Say the Right Thing - "It works in all kinds of crises -- medical, legal, even existential. It's the 'Ring Theory' of kvetching. The first rule is comfort in, dump out." by mojojuju Jan 26

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