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The Habits Of Supremely Happy People

The Habits Of Supremely Happy People
Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology, theorizes that while 60 percent of happiness is determined by our genetics and environment, the remaining 40 percent is up to us. In his 2004 Ted Talk, Seligman describes three different kinds of happy lives: The pleasant life, in which you fill your life with as many pleasures as you can, the life of engagement, where you find a life in your work, parenting, love and leisure and the meaningful life, which “consists of knowing what your highest strengths are, and using them to belong to and in the service of something larger than you are.” After exploring what accounts for ultimate satisfaction, Seligman says he was surprised. The pursuit of pleasure, research determined, has hardly any contribution to a lasting fulfillment. Instead, pleasure is “the whipped cream and the cherry” that adds a certain sweetness to satisfactory lives founded by the simultaneous pursuit of meaning and engagement. They smile when they mean it. They unplug. Related:  Self DevelopmentPersonal development

The Importance of Personal Projects Personal projects are an often overlooked part of a professional career – be it games, embedded, or even web development. There’s only so much you will be exposed to in an office environment, where you can lean on others for areas that aren’t your specialty. But when it comes to personal projects, you have to be a jack of all trades. This is the reason I ask about hobbies and personal projects of those who I interview and those for whom I interview with (interviews go both ways remember!). It’s not something I ask because I want to know if you’ll be my buddy, even though that is very important factor in selecting coworkers in my opinion, but because it is one of the most clear indicators of a curious and active mind – and that trait is very important. An engineering team with curious and active minds is the cornerstone of a solid development process. There’s no reason that a personal project has to be directly related to your daily work.

How to Find the Time for That Important Project Almost everyone has some important project they can’t seem to get to. Maybe it’s starting a blog, writing a book, or launching a new business initiative. You just can’t seem to find the time to tackle it. Photo courtesy of ©iStockphoto.com/zstigler Whenever I speak on the topic of Platform, the first question I always get in the Q&A is this: “How do I make time for building a platform? Here are seven steps for getting unstuck and finding time for those important projects: Accept reality. Yes, it really is possible to find time for those important projects you want to accomplish. Want to launch your own blog or upgrade to self-hosted WordPress?

Your Employees Want the Negative Feedback You Hate to Give - Jack Zenger , and Joseph Folkman by Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman | 1:00 PM January 15, 2014 Would you rather hear positive feedback about your performance or suggestions for improvement? For the last two weeks, we’ve been compiling data on this question, and on people’s general attitudes toward feedback, both positive and corrective. So far we’ve collected it from 899 individuals, 49% from the U.S. and the remainder from abroad. What our assessment measures is the extent to which you prefer to give and to receive both positive and corrective feedback. The graph below shows, on average, the degree to which the participants in our initial sample tend to avoid or prefer giving and receiving positive and corrective feedback. The first column indicates that roughly the same number of people prefer to give positive feedback as those who do not. The second column shows how much people prefer to avoid giving negative feedback (a finding that came as no surprise to us, certainly).

The Path Exercise (a downloadable tool) - Human Workplace Like an ace, I spilled hot tea on my laptop as I sat in my friend Molly’s kitchen chatting away and talking about business and people. “Oh shiz,” I said, and Molly said “Turn it over!” but I was too slow, and strangely enough my early training kicked in enough so that I couldn’t bring myself to dump tea water onto Molly’s dining-room table, even as I saw the laptop die in front of me. Human Workplace Reinvention Roadmap Path Exercise Jan 2013 It’s your path. Have fun with the Path exercise. My point is that there are these threads and strains from our early life that really want to join back together sometimes, and completing this Path exercise can get us in touch with some of them. I gave one to my ten-year-old son, but he made it into a battle map for Star Wars clone troopers.

10 Years of Silence: How long it took Mozart, Picasso and Kobe Bryant to be Successful 3.1K Flares Filament.io 3.1K Flares × How long does it take to become elite at your craft? And what do the people who master their goals do differently than the rest of us? That’s what John Hayes, a cognitive psychology professor at Carnegie Mellon University, wanted to know. For decades, Hayes has been investigating the role of effort, practice, and knowledge in top performers. Let’s talk about what Hayes has discovered about world class performers. “10 Years of Silence” Hayes started his research by examining successful composers. Eventually, Hayes developed a list of 500 pieces that were played frequently by symphonies around the world and were considered to be the “masterworks” in the field. Next, Hayes mapped out the timeline of each composer’s career and calculated how long they had been working before they created their popular works. Not a single person produced incredible work without putting in a decade of practice first. How Kobe Bryant Made it to the Top P.S.

How to Reduce Stress: 10 Relaxation Techniques To Reduce Stress On-the-Spot By Jeannette MoningerWebMD Feature Relax. You deserve it, it's good for you, and it takes less time than you think. You don't need a spa weekend or a retreat. Each of these stress-relieving tips can get you from OMG to om in less than 15 minutes. 1. A few minutes of practice per day can help ease anxiety. It's simple. 2. Take a 5-minute break and focus on your breathing. “Deep breathing counters the effects of stress by slowing the heart rate and lowering blood pressure,” psychologist Judith Tutin, PhD, says. 3. Slow down. “Take 5 minutes and focus on only one behavior with awareness,” Tutin says. When you spend time in the moment and focus on your senses, you should feel less tense. 4. Your social network is one of your best tools for handling stress. 5. Mentally scan your body to get a sense of how stress affects it each day.

The Most Valuable Lesson I've Learned as a CEO October 15, 2013 – The Ultimate Cheat Sheet To Reinvent Yourself The Ultimate Cheat Sheet To Reinvent Yourself Here are the rules: I’ve been at zero a few times, come back a few times, and done it over and over. I’ve started entire new careers. People who knew me then, don’t me now. And so on. I’ve had to change careers several times. And sometimes just because I hated everyone in my old career or they hated me. There’s other ways to reinvent yourself. I’ve seen it work for maybe a few hundred other people. A) Reinvention never stops. Every day you reinvent yourself. You start from scratch. Every label you claim you have from before is just vanity. You lost everything. C) You need a mentor. Else, you’ll sink to the bottom. D) Three types of mentors – Direct. By the way, mentors aren’t like that old Chinese guy in “The Karate Kid”. – Indirect. I would throw in inspirational books. – Everything is a mentor. And everything you look at, you will connect the dots. E) Don’t worry if you don’t have passion for anything. Here’s a description of the five years: Today.

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