Caring for Your Introvert The habits and needs of a little-understood group From Atlantic Unbound: Interviews: "Introverts of the World, Unite!" Follow-up: The Introversy Continues Jonathan Rauch comments on reader feedback about introvert dating—and poses a new question Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? If so, do you tell this person he is "too serious," or ask if he is okay? If you answered yes to these questions, chances are that you have an introvert on your hands—and that you aren't caring for him properly. I know. Oh, for years I denied it. What is introversion? Extroverts are energized by people, and wilt or fade when alone. How many people are introverts? Are introverts misunderstood? Are introverts oppressed? Extroverts therefore dominate public life. With their endless appetite for talk and attention, extroverts also dominate social life, so they tend to set expectations. Are introverts arrogant? The worst of it is that extroverts have no idea of the torment they put us through.
Why Germans Work Fewer Hours But Produce More: A Study In Culture When many Americans think of Germany, images of WWII soldiers and Hitler often come to mind. But what many people don’t realize is that Germany is the industrial powerhouse of Europe, and is a leading manufacturer of goods for export to developing Asian nations. We don’t hear about the superiority of German engineering in Volkswagen commercials for nothing! Hi there! Knote publishes great ideas for how to be more productive every day. Working Hours Mean Working Hours In German business culture, when an employee is at work, they should not be doing anything other than their work. In the BBC documentary “Make Me A German“, a young German woman explained her culture shock while on a working exchange to the UK. “I was in England for an exchange… I was in the office and the people are talking all the time about their private things… ‘What’s the plan for tonight?’ She was quite surprised by the casual nature of British workers. Goal-Oriented, Direct Communication Is Valued
Are You an Introverted Boss? - Douglas R. Conant by Douglas R. Conant | 10:19 AM April 4, 2011 Every time I’ve taken a Meyers-Briggs test, I score high on the introversion scale. So how do I manage this? Introverts need thinking time. Introverts aren’t as aloof as they appear. One of the best ways I’ve found to help people overcome their discomfort around my behavior is to simply declare myself. I’ve also found that doing this helps people become much more comfortable about declaring themselves to me. Introverts benefit from familiar touchstones. In the end, we introverts never really change our stripes, though we too often put ourselves through painful contortions in attempting to adapt to other people’s styles. If you are an introvert — or work for one — what are the most successful strategies you have discovered? Douglas R.
Giving introverts permission to be themselves Edgar, a sparkly New York socialite, was known for the engrossing tales he’d spin for guests at fundraisers he seemed to host nightly. In reality, the man would spend much of the day ahead of each party jotting down anecdotes on index cards, a nervous habit he’d developed in college. Edgar the social maven was actually a closet introvert: “I’d much rather sit and read and think about things than talk to people,” he told Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. Studies suggest one out of every two or three people are introverts, but just like animals that carry shelter everywhere they go, many of us are “pseudo-extroverts” – introverts faking it through the social crush of modern life. Often overlooked or branded as “shy,” introverts have long been up against the “extrovert ideal,” which rewards the brash at school, at the office and at cocktail parties. But it wasn’t always this way. So introverts aren’t necessarily shy? It cuts both ways.
Bleirohre: Der Vermieter muss die Leitungen austauschen Seit ich weiß, dass wir alte Bleileitungen in unserem Mietshaus haben, schlafe ich schlecht. Erstens mache ich mir Sorgen um meine Gesundheit. Zweitens bin ich heute Früh aufgewacht und konnte nicht mehr einschlafen, weil ich grübelte, wie und wann ich am besten meine Probe nehme. Ich habe ein Testset für 38 Euro bestellt, um die Konzentration aller Schwermetalle im Trinkwasser bestimmen zu lassen - ein Test auf Blei kostet nur 18 Euro, aber wenn schon, denn schon. Es gibt grundsätzlich zwei Möglichkeiten, die Probe zu entnehmen: Entweder ich fülle das erste Wasser ab, das morgens aus der Leitung kommt - das hat über Nacht in der Leitung gestanden und damit mutmaßlich am meisten Blei aufgenommen. Eine solche Probe wäre optimal, um nachzuweisen, dass es Blei in unserem Trinkwasser gibt. Deutlich überschrittene Grenzwerte Ich stehe auf, öffne den Wasserhahn und warte, bis der Strahl abgekühlt ist. Trinkwasser - jetzt auch bleifrei
untitled Relationships: The power of the introvert "Did you go out today?" asks my boyfriend after a long day at the office. It suddenly occurs to me that I am still in my pyjamas, working on my laptop and curled up in the same spot as when he left. He's just curious, he says, but I hear only criticism. "No; why?" I snap, defensive. Carl Jung coined the terms "introvert" and "extrovert" in 1913, just as Western society was moving from what could be called a culture of moral character ("Are you a jerk?") They're happy, outgoing and confident; we're guarded, private loners. "People often think of introversion as synonymous with being anti-social or asocial," says Susan Cain, proud introvert and author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking. For the record, I have friends, I like to party when the mood's right and I can rock an extrovert costume like nobody's business. "Think of yourself as a battery," says Cain. Learn what the world is like for introverts on the next page...
The complete guide to networking for introverts In August, two Quartz reporters, Allison Schrager, who’s also an economist, and Siyi Chen, a video journalist traveled to Carson City, Nevada to visit the famed Moonlite Bunny Ranch Brothel. They interviewed some of the few legal sex workers in America, and found that to really understand the work, they also needed answers to some basic questions. In this piece we invite five of the people we met to speak for themselves. At their request, we used sex workers’ stage names, not their real names. We went into this story thinking we’d learn about the economics of brothels and pick up some negotiation tips. Can you sell the most intimate part of yourself and not take it personally? The ladies all claim they feel an authentic connection with clients, and this connection is what they use to sell them more expensive, time-consuming services. ❝ More often than not, the clients are not interested in who I am as a person. Read more on Alice Little, the shortest legal escort in Nevada
Why Extraversion May Not Matter Recent research evidence suggests that while extraversion is predictive of many positive social outcomes, it may not be extraversion itself that matters. Instead, it may be possession of social skills or competencies that are better predictors of social outcomes than personality constructs such as extraversion. Let me explain. Extraversion is a core personality trait that is associated with high levels of energy, expressing emotions, and seeking the company of others. However, social skills come into play. In a very recent study, we found, consistent with previous research, that extraversion was related to both the attainment of leadership positions and a self-rated measure of leader effectiveness. This makes sense. Think about some of the extraverted folks in entertainment—the Robin Williams, or Jim Carrey types. So, personality matters, but skills and competencies may matter more when it comes to complex social behaviors such as leadership. Riggio, R.E., & Reichard, R.
23 Signs You're Secretly An Introvert Think you can spot an introvert in a crowd? Think again. Although the stereotypical introvert may be the one at the party who’s hanging out alone by the food table fiddling with an iPhone, the “social butterfly” can just as easily have an introverted personality. “Spotting the introvert can be harder than finding Waldo,” Sophia Dembling, author of “The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World,” tells The Huffington Post. “A lot of introverts can pass as extroverts.” People are frequently unaware that they’re introverts -– especially if they’re not shy — because they may not realize that being an introvert is about more than just cultivating time alone. “Introversion is a basic temperament, so the social aspect — which is what people focus on — is really a small part of being an introvert,” Dr. Despite the growing conversation around introversion, it remains a frequently misunderstood personality trait. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20.