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There's Something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men

There's Something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men
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How to Develop Gratitude for Mindfulness Gratitude is considered by some as the greatest of all emotions that can be cultivated for mindfulness. Recent studies are beginning to show that gratitude has a unique relationship with wellbeing, and can explain aspects of wellbeing that other personality traits cannot. An attitude of gratitude goes hand in hand with mindfulness. You’re grateful when you’re aware of what you do have rather than what you don’t. The effect of this is an opening of the heart. Gratitude is a skill that you can develop. Think of something you’re ungrateful for.Perhaps you’re ungrateful in your job, a relationship, or your place of residence.Now think of all the things that are good about it. When someone has hurt you, or you’ve done something wrong, you have a conflict in your mind. Try this approach to begin allowing in forgiveness: Understand that hating someone else doesn’t actually hurt that person at all.List all the beneficial things that have emerged from a situation.

Legal Gender Studies - Fakultät für Rechtswissenschaft - Universität Hamburg Mit den neu eingeführten Legal Gender Studies werden Lehre und Forschung der Fakultät für Rechtswissenschaft um eine wesentliche Perspektive ergänzt. Im Folgenden finden Sie Veranstaltungen, Lehrangebote, Publikationen und weiterführende Links. Die Seite ist stetig im Aufbau, über Anregungen und Ergänzungen freue ich mich. Aktuelle Veranstaltungen finden sich unter www.legal-gender-studies.de! Gender Studies in Hamburg und Genderzertifikat Das Lehrveranstaltungstableau für die Gender Studies der Hamburger Hochschulen finden Sie hier. Studientag "Geschlechterperspektiven in Strafrechtswissenschaften und Kriminologie" Nicht zuletzt auf Grund ihrer Nähe zu den Sozialrechtswissenschaften haben sich die Strafrechtswissenschaften im Schnittfeld zur Kriminologie bereits früh für Fragen der Geschlechterforschung geöffnet. Termin: Freitag, 15.11.2013, 9-18 Uhr Programm: Kurzversion und ausführlichere Fassung Die Vorlesung findet als Blockveranstaltung jeweils ganztägig an drei Terminen statt. Am 26.

Learn to Coupon: The System 3. Getting Organized The easiest method to getting the best deals is to have a library of inserts saved up. Best Option: Accordion File Method Not as pretty as the binder method, but very time efficient! On Southern Savers we will tell you next to every coupon the exact insert to go and find it in. Gotta Try It? Organizing Other Coupons You'll always end up with cut coupons you didn't use or coupons you found in the store. Learn more about coupons and where to get them

A Man’s Guide to Black Tie: How To Wear A Tuxedo Nothing makes a man feel as sharp and debonair (and makes the ladies swoon) as when donning a tuxedo. Unfortunately, “black tie” is an often misunderstood dress code, leading men to end up looking more like Lloyd and Harry in Dumb and Dumber than 007. You can thank rental outlets and high school proms for a lot of the misconceptions. When you’re in the business of renting tuxedos, you want people to believe that they are appropriate for all kinds of events, and that means they can sometimes be turned into a novelty item. Fun for the whole family and good for some laughs, no doubt — but it’s certainly not the refined elegance needed for a true black tie event. While seeing “Black Tie” on an event invitation can be intimidating, the good news is that getting black tie right isn’t hard! In fact, the strictness of the dress code makes it one of the easiest outfits you’ll ever plan. Black Tie Basics First, a few things you need to know about black tie attire: 1. 2. 3. The Tuxedo Jacket The Trousers

Michelle Cottier/ Josef Estermann/ Michael Wrase (Hg.): Wie wirkt Recht? — Vereinigung für Recht und Gesellschaft Ausgewählte Beiträge zum ersten gemeinsamen Kongress der deutschsprachigen Rechtssoziologie-Vereinigungen an der Universität Luzern 2008, im Originaldruck erschienen 2010 beim Nomos-Verlag Baden-Baden Buchumschlag Buchcover Nomos Inhaltsverzeichnis Das Inhaltsverzeichnis Einleitung „Wie wirkt Recht? Hubert Rottleuthner und Margret Rottleuthner-Lutter: Recht und Kausalität Nach einer Klärung von Grundbegriffen der rechtssoziologischen Effektivitätsforschung werden, ausgehend von einem instrumentellen Rechtsverständnis, drei Modelle des Verhältnisses von Rechtsnormen und deren Befolgung unterschieden (Ursache – Wirkung, Befehl – Gehorsam, Angebotsnormen und deren Gebrauch). ... Inga Markovits: Rechtssoziologie für Außenseiter Erhard Blankenburg: Europäische Justizindikatoren: Budgets der Justiz, Richter und Rechtsanwälte Bedingung der Mitgliedschaft in der Europäischen Union ist ein gemeinsamer Standard der Rechtsstaatlichkeit. Klaus F. Doris Mathilde Lucke: Was weiß Recht? Klaus F. 1. Flyer Nomos

DIY Heart Friendship Bracelet As the month of love approaches, we thought we’d combine friendship and hearts into one Valentine’s Day themed tutorial: a heart patterned friendship bracelet! Using some candy-colored embroidery floss and your familiarity with the chevron friendship bracelet, you’ll be able to whip up one of these tokens of love in a heartbeat. You’ll need:2 colors of embroidery flossscissorstape or clipboard Creating a heart pattern involves just a simple modification to the chevron patterned friendship bracelet. Separate the threads into 2 sets, 2 of each color on each side. Start on the left side with the outermost strand (shown here in red) and make a forward knot by creating a 4-shape over the 2nd strand (shown here in blue), loop it under and back through the opening. Pull up and to the right to tighten. Continue knotting over each color, towards the right, until the outermost color has carried over to the middle. Continue knotting towards the left until the outermost strand reaches the middle.

The Power of Habit: Make & Break Habits with the Habit Loop For better or for worse, our habits shape us. A good habit is a strong ally in our journey to becoming the men we want to be, while a bad habit acts like a millstone around our necks. (Want to know why? Read this Manvotional.) Fortunately for me, a book was published earlier this year that highlights the latest research by psychologists and neuroscientists on the science of habit formation. Below, we take a look at the science of habits and how we can hack the Habit Loop in our lives to break bad habits and make better ones. Our Brain on Habits Just beneath our gray and squiggly cerebral cortex sits a small piece of neural tissue called the basal ganglia. The inspiration came after researchers noticed that mice with injured basal ganglia developed problems with learning how to run through mazes. During the first maze runs, mental activity in the mice’s cerebral cortex was high. The Habit Loop Cue. When something is a habit, our brain strongly associates certain Cues with certain Rewards.

Let’s talk about consent in practice. | Disrupting Dinner Parties Last week we talked about what a “model of consent” is and what a few models were. Today is about consent under the “yes means yes” model. Consent is being in agreement that what is going on is good/ desirable/ fun/ sexy and should keep happening. You need to have your partner’s consent for sexual activity, or it is sexual assault/ rape. Consent is a state, like trust. or paying attention. And it’s between your partner’s ears. Consent is not like getting a train ticket stamped. Affirmative consent is when you know that you have consent, because there are concrete things your partner has done that tell you so. The consent that I’m referring to in this post is an ethical/moral/be-a-decent-human-being term, not a legal term. What does consent look like? Consent is a state, like paying attention. Beyond the minimum requirements of not being an asshole, it’s also a lot more fun if your date is responding to you, asking questions and making observations. He’s gonna hit that corner. Like this:

Epictetus Epictetus The Stoic Epictetus famously believed that his mind was free even if his body was enslaved, and this was enough freedom for him. The Stoic word for freedom, ἐλευθερία, emphasizes the freedom from external coercion that modern compatibilists argue is the only freedom in the idea of voluntary actions and "free will." But long before the Stoics, Aristotle had used "depends on us" (ἐφ’ ἡμῖν), to describe the kind of internal freedom Epictetus prized. Epictetus knew that some actions in the world were external to his will and out of his control. For Epictetus, good and evil were exclusively involved in things under our control, not in external events. Chrysippus had identified things that depend on us as not necessitated (though fated), because they causally depend on our assent (συνκατάθεσις) or dissent. Epictetus taught his students to distinguish clearly those things that were up to us from those beyond our control (ἀπροαίρεσις). For Teachers For Scholars Normal | Teacher | Scholar

What You Believe About Homosexuality Doesn’t Matter | In The Parlor Today, there are 2 news stories that have been circulating all over my Facebook and Twitter news feeds. One you are probably aware of, the other maybe not. The two, though, are closely related. The first news story is the indefinite suspension of Duck Dynasty star Phil Robertson due to the comments he made during an interview with GQ magazine. The second news story is about the “defrocking” of Pennsylvania UMC pastor Frank Schaefer after he performed the marriage for his gay son and subsequent refusal to submit to church law regarding this action. The link between these two stories is clear. The reaction to both of these stories has been…emphatic, to say the least. But I refuse to engage in it. The fact of the matter is, it doesn’t matter whether or not you think homosexuality is a sin. When faced with the choice between being theologically correct…as if this is even possible…and being morally responsible, I’ll go with morally responsible every time. We are past the time for debate.

20 Aphorisms That I Thought Were Dumb as a Boy But Now Appreciate as a Grown Man When I was a young man, I would scoff at well-intentioned adults who would sometimes offer up little aphorisms when I got in trouble or had a problem. Little nuggets like, “This too shall pass,” generally went in one ear and out the other. They sounded too simple and too cliché to really mean anything. But as I’ve become a grown man, I’ve had experiences where these little bits of wisdom have come back to me and have revealed their value and deeper truth. An aphorism is a short, pithy statement that conveys a principle or contains a pearl of wisdom. Philosopher Nassim Nicholas Talib argues that an aphorism’s ability “to compress powerful ideas in a handful of words” shows bravado. These “acts of manliness” communicate timeless truths that have been around for ages. As a culture we want things that seem new, revolutionary, complex, and smart; we want the cool hacks and “secrets” that haven’t been discovered until now.

Seven Female Rappers Who Are Not Nicki Minaj Or Kreayshawn With the plethora of hyper-sexualized females using visual gags and fashion stunts to keep your attention and an overwhelming amount of misogyny pervading the genre, it can be easy to forget that the history of women in hip hop is incredibly diverse, expansive and amazing. Even more disappointing is the fact that you can listen to copious amounts of modern Hip Hop and not realize that there are plenty of talented female MCs in that world, both past and present, who often get overlooked. With that said, I’d like to introduce you to a league of talented ladies who deserve a few plays on your iPod. The hardest part of creating this list was trying to narrow it down to just seven great female MCs. Please don’t mistake this shortlist as anything ‘official’; there are a host of up-and-coming female rappers out there who are equally as deserving of your attention: Ethel Cee is pretty amazing, as is 7th Stori, Kid Sister, K-Slay, Snow, Karmin, and Ill Camille. Iggy Azalea Azealia Banks Rapsody

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