What I Did For Lloyd Two Valentine's Days ago, in the Style section, it was discussed at great length why women still think about Jake Ryan -- the cool-mannered, Porsche-driving, completely fictional hunk from the 1984 teen flick "Sixteen Candles." Then came the e-mail. Women (and some men) wrote in for months, mostly affirming this fantasy. One dreamer in Dallas talked about the lady down the street with toddler sons named Jake and Ryan. There was much linking and blogging. "But what about," she finally asked, "Lloyd Dobler?" Because, it turns out, for every one woman with a residual Jake Ryan thing there are maybe 100 with a persistent Lloyd Dobler fetish. Heaps of devotional words have been written about Lloyd Dobler. Anyhow, here is your sequel, '80s ladies: Lloyd Dobler rules over Jake Ryan. "Say Anything," which like all Saturday cable movies became a hit only in hindsight, was directed by backdoor zeitgeister Cameron Crowe, who sometimes nails it, especially about loners and rogues. So he was a man.
How to Have Better Conversations Some time back I noticed two things: I enjoy good conversationsI want to have more good conversations Nothing revolutionary, but because of those things, I started thinking more about conversation and how to improve it. Here’s what I came up with. These are some reasons that people converse: Conversation brings back memories from your own life.It validates your experiences and opinions and makes you feel understood and accepted.It gives you knowledge about a subject you’re interested in. While most of these are valid reasons to have conversation, they don’t directly indicate what makes a good conversation. You didn’t feel listened to. – Message from Certkiller– Download cissp dumps to guarantee Pass ccna 640-802 exams! Knowing what makes conversation good and bad, we can draw some conclusions about what to do in order to have a good conversation. Don’t be selfish. Technorati Tags: conversation, learning, life, lifehacks, lists
10 Types of Women You Need to Avoid | American Inventor Spot Did you ever notice that there are a lot of dolls out there? And that many times they are often times used as role models for little girls? Well, we are all familiar with the good old Barbie doll with her long blond hair, her permanent smile and mile long legs. In my search for the wacky, I have come across quite a collection of weird dolls. All these weird dolls are just like the women in my life. So here are my picks for the 10 Types of Women You Need to Stay Away From: 10. You know the type. She’s the woman who had her whole life laid out like clockwork and with a timeline to give her the perfect life, only to find she hasn’t met the perfect man and her biological clock is counting down in seconds. You know she’s going to suddenly discover as soon as she’s married and gotten the two kids that you are a stinker…but now, you’re going to have to deal with her the rest of your life. She’s so scary that any man in his right mind would run away….so run. 9. 8. 7. 6. You know the type? 5. 4.
Internet Dating Stories: The good, the bad, and the... OH MY GOD! What were they thinking?! Please help me silence my nosy relatives and friends I've recently turned 28, and am still unmarried. For various reasons, I would prefer to stay single. However, my extended family has other ideas I'm originally from the Indian Subcontinent, so family is a big part of my life. The real reason I have no desire to get married is because I have not seen very many happy marriages in my life. I obviously don't want to tell my family any of this, but still want to politely communicate that it will be a long while before I'll be married, if at all. Thanks for any help you can offer, MeFi'ers. So, you're telling me we should just be friends? OK, so here's the story. I'm a 28 year old guy living in the Midwest. I've had one romantic relationship in my life, and that ended very badly in 2005 (she got abusive when we broke up, told all my secrets to whoever would listen, etc.) Prior to that, I really didn't have the confidence to approach women due to a weight problem and not having any money in college. I had a lot of crushes on women before my relationship in 2005, but I just never acted upon it because of self-confidence issues. Now I find myself in a weird place. I think my views about relationships are all wrong. Compounding this fact is that I really enjoy misogynist entertainment. I know I should likely go to therapy, but are there any other resources out there I could consult to help me begin to get over these views? My e-mail is askmefi at yahoo dot com if you would like additional info of any kind from me.
Alluring, difficult woman seeks stable and assertive man I am in search of a patient, assertive, and attractive man to aid me in my quest for self-improvement. These qualities are non-negotiable and the explanation is as follows. After two intense failed relationships, {both which, in retrospect, were almost completely my fault but I was able to successfully manipulate things so as to make each man believe they were in the wrong} I have spent a lot of time thinking about who I am and I have isolated several personality traits that make it somewhat difficult for a normal person to have a relationship with me. I am looking for a man who is secure enough in himself to tolerate our exciting lifestyle {a background or degree in psychology is a plus.} I am determined to find a healthier way of approaching things, as I never want to ruin anyone's life ever again. Some things you should know: *I have a major 'Daddy' complex. *I will never trust you. *I have no communication skills. *I have an addictive personality. *I am a cold and unemotional bitch.
Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him." I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the "Nice Guy" have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that "Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. What's wrong with Nice Guys? Nice Guys exude insecurity -- a big red target for the predators of the world. Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure. Nice Guys go overboard. They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. They cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions.
healthy vs toxic love How To Give A Good Compliment If you see a lot of posts about communication at Life Coaches Blog, it’s not because I’m good at it, but because I was a real social nerd (some of my friends will say I’m still one :P). More than a few people who’ve seen me speak have been surprised, but I’m an introvert by nature and an extrovert by training. I’ve had to pick up these skills to overcome my awkward social skills and that’s why I like to share what I’ve found to work, and what I want to learn more about. Here’s something I’ve found to help me open up conversations, give people a lift, and raise my self-esteem at the same time. How To Give A Good Compliment There’s nothing like a warm, sincere compliment to make your day. 1) Make your compliment specific. “That necklace looks really good on you” makes a bigger impact compared to “you look really good today”. 2) Back up your compliment. Don’t just stop at “that necklace looks really good on you”. 3) Ask a question with your compliment. Featured