When you communicate – are you memorable? Richard Pryor: A Brilliant Communicator One of the habits I have developed in the last few years is watching speeches of TEDsters and Authors@Google . I find it is one of the quickest ways to be exposed to great ideas without having to travel to another city or state. In 2008, I watched a rather eye-opening video of Dan Roam. He was at the headquarters of Google, in Mountain View, California, to discuss his ideas about using pictures to communicate and to solve problems. Roam's book is titled, The Back of the Napkin: Solving Problems and Selling Ideas with Pictures . As a professor, I learned early that my courses should be as interactive as possible and to make learning a by-product of that interaction. Fast Forward to 2008 By the time I came across the ideas of Dan Roam my classes were already a highly interactive experience. However, there was one thing that I continued to do that gave me trouble and that was the use of the dry Power-point presentations. You Can't Forget What I Write
The Art of Wisdom and the Psychology of How We Use Categories, Frames, and Stories to Make Sense of the World by Maria Popova The psychology of how we use frames, categories, and storytelling to make sense of the world. “It’s insulting to imply that only a system of rewards and punishments can keep you a decent human being,” Isaac Asimov told Bill Moyers in their magnificent 1988 conversation on science and religion. And yet ours is a culture that frequently turns to rigid external rules — be they of religion or of legislature or of social conduct — as a substitute for the inner moral compass that a truly “decent human being” uses to steer behavior. Schwartz and Sharpe write: [Aristotle] thought that our fundamental social practices constantly demanded choices — like when to be loyal to a friend, or how to be fair, or how to confront risk, or when and how to be angry—and that making the right choices demanded wisdom. External rules, while helpful in other regards, can’t instill in us true telos. Practical wisdom demands more than the skill to be perceptive about others. The world is gray.
How to Detect Lies - body language, reactions, speech patterns Interesting Info -> Lying Index -> How to Detect Lies Become a Human Lie Detector (Part 1) Warning: sometimes ignorance is bliss. After gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you. Introduction to Detecting Lies: This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions. This is just a basic run down of physical (body language) gestures and verbal cues that may indicate someone is being untruthful. If you got here from somewhere else, be sure to check out our Lie Detection index page for more info including new research in the field of forensic psychology. Signs of Deception: Body Language of Lies: • Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. • A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact. • Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Final Notes:
Real-Life Role-Playing Game master Rio Greeley (in cap at left) leads an after-school game of ‘Star Wars Miniatures,’ with special house rules. When Max Delaney came to rural Maine 13 years ago, his itinerant family moved from town to town, school to school. With few social connections, he felt isolated. Like an outsider. "It was hard for me to find people," says Mr. Then, the year his family arrived in Belfast, a coastal town of some 6,300 on Penobscot Bay, he discovered The Game Loft and finally found his tribe. Similar to other youth-development organizations such as Outward Bound or Scouting, The Game Loft also fosters risk-taking, leadership, and camarad erie. Via table-top role-playing games like Dungeons & Dragons (D&D), Game Loft members play characters armed not with football padding and hockey sticks but chain mail, broadswords, light sabers, and magic spells. "I took to [role-playing] immediately," Delaney says. The Game Loft addresses another concern: the proliferation of video games.
Things You Cannot Unsee (And What That Says About Your Brain) We're going to rewire your brain. Are you ready? I want to show you something simple your mind can do, which illustrates a fascinating emerging theory about how the brain works. First, look at this logo of the World Cup this year. The idea of the emblem is obvious: This is an illustration of a trophy with an abstract soccer ball on top. The colors—green, yellow, and blue—mirror the host country's flag. Now consider this tweet from copywriter Holly Brockwell, which got 2,400 thousand retweets: "CANNOT UNSEE: the Brazil 2014 logo has been criticised for 'looking like a facepalm.'" You know, a facepalm: With this new cue—to see the logo as a facepalm—the yellow part becomes an arm with its hand pressed into a green head. People report this kind of thing all the time, and they use this same phrase: cannot unsee. But usually the image hasn't changed; only what we think about it has. I couldn't find anyone who studies the really specific cannot-unsee phenomenon that I'm talking about here. 1. 2.
8 Ways to Instantly Increase Your Confidence Need a confidence boost? Try these 8 tips to help you be more confident in everything you do. May 06, 2014 Confidence isn’t about other people. How can you boost your confidence? You are your five closest friends. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. Confidence comes with achievement, for sure, but it can also come from the certainty that you’re on the path to success—even if you haven’t yet achieved that success. Read more articles on leadership. Photo: Getty Images
The Key to Understanding Body Language Since writing “ What Every Body is Saying ,” the question I am most often asked is, “What nonverbal behaviors should I be looking for and are they different at home, at work, or in relationships?” Perhaps this will help to clarify the matter. Somewhere in our hominid past, as with most animals, we developed the ability to communicate nonverbally and that still remains our primary method of communication, especially when it comes to emotions. Charles Darwin first and Paul Ekman much later, have written about the universality of emotions in part because, as Joseph Ledoux has pointed out, these and other survival behaviors are governed by our very elegant limbic brain. The governance of homeostasis, procreation, emotion, spotting and reacting to threats, as well as assuring our survival, are all heavy responsibilities of the limbic system. Limbic reaction are immediate, sure, time-tested, and honest and apply to us all. Darwin, C. (1872). Ekman, P. (2003). ——— (1991). de Becker, G. (1997).
Why every face you draw looks a little Neandertal Let’s try an experiment: Draw a face. Nothing fancy, just an oval with eyes, nose, mouth, some hair. What you’ve produced probably looks like a cartoon Neandertal. Just about everyone tends to draw faces with the eyes too high on the head, resulting in a low forehead and a rather cretinous look. It’s not just a matter of artistic talent. Psychology researchers (not to mention generations of art teachers) have noticed that everyone does it. In reality, your eyes are right about in the middle of your head, measured vertically. “Even in painting courses, people start with exactly this bias,” Carbon says. In an experiment, people drew the eyes unnaturally high (average shown in red) when trying to draw faces from memory (top row). C.C. So Carbon and his colleague Benedikt Emanuel Wirth, both at University of Bamberg, started by asking people to draw a face in a blank box. Sadly, they only did a little better by copying. So far, the results seem to favor the second hypothesis, head as box.
Leadership Lessons From Walt Disney: Perfecting the Customer Experience At Disney Institute, we were recently reflecting on the phrase, “simple is the new smart,” and it reminded us of a leadership philosophy we share with our clients and training program attendees – keep it simple so that everyone understands. Walt Disney was a master at this. One of the simplest, yet most powerful and timeless leadership lessons we have learned from Walt is: “You don’t build it for yourself. You know what the people want and you build it for them.” These words have defined our philosophy from the beginning, and we have spent decades working to perfect it. OK, so how can we truly know what the people want? That does not mean we should ignore traditional research methods. In our book, Be Our Guest, we share this leadership lesson, which Walt imparted to his team early on: When it was suggested that an administration building be erected for the management at Disneyland, Walt was vehemently opposed. How well do you truly understand what your customers want?
The Thick Skinned Here's an important rule for life: It's not all about you. To develop a thick skin you must first remember that you are not the center of the universe. Yes, sorry to say, you are not the fixed point around which the universe turns. Say someone isn't paying you enough attention. You brood and brood. Yet there may be a good reason for her inattention. If this is how your mind works, you may indeed be overly thin skinned. Here are a few tips to developing a thick skin: Don't take things personally. Tags: bad behavior , brood , center of the universe , deep breathing , foul mood , frustrated , good reason , inattention , jerk , new solution , proposals , provocations , self-confidence , success , thick skin , time out , upset