"Don't wait for perfect." Brandon Stanton HONY Brandon Stanton has talked with 10,000 strangers and shared their stories with millions of people across the Internet. The 29-year-old photographer and creator of Humans of New York didn't hesitate to follow an idea and turn it into something meaningful. Stanton has photographed New Yorkers and visitors of the city since November 2010, developing one of the most dedicated online communities. Humans of New York (HONY) has nearly 1.5 million fans on Facebook, more than 33,000 followers on Twitter and regularly receives several thousand notes for each Tumblr post. The culmination of Stanton’s efforts is a book set for release on Oct. 15. The book, simply titled Humans of New York, is a compilation of Stanton’s best work, and also includes 75 never-before-seen portraits. Mashable followed Stanton on his rounds to learn a little bit about the process behind the hugely popular blog and the man — a former bond trader in Chicago — behind the camera. You can sense when somebody wants something.
10 Clever Tricks to Trigger Positive Emotions People who see the glass half-full are certainly happier than the pessimists of the world, and learning to think positively is worthwhile. However, changing the way you think can be surprisingly tricky, especially when the going gets tough. What if there were a way—a shortcut or hack—that positively affected how you feel when you just can’t seem to shake the blues? A few years ago, I came across a simple idea that has been validated in hundreds of experiments and has given rise to quick and effective exercises that can help you feel happier, avoid anxiety, increase your willpower, deepen relationships and boost confidence. The idea dates back to the turn of the 20th century and to the work of Victorian philosopher William James. According to James’s theory, forcing your face into a smile should make you feel happy, and frowning should make you feel sad. In the late 1960s, psychologist James Laird from the University of Rochester stumbled across James’s theory and decided to test it. 1.
No Regrets: 15 Ways To Make Sure You Die Happy What does it mean to die happy? It means to have lived a life with few regrets, filled joyful experiences and memories, amazing people, and to have lived with purpose. The question is: How do we do that? Well, I’m glad you asked. It’s not easy; it’s complicated. Here’s a guideline consisting of 15 tips that can help you live and die with a smile on your face: 1. Too much of any good thing ends up being a bad thing. You will enjoy each slice a little less than the last. 2. When I say as much as possible, I don’t mean that literally. Usually, we say no, not because we have prior commitments, but because we are either too afraid or too lazy to say yes. 3. As a human being, you can express yourself either physically or vocally, without having to use other external media. 4. Not only is laughing healthy for you, it also feels amazing. 5. There is so much to see in the world that by staying in one place, you truly are doing yourself an injustice. 6. 7. Your priorities are up to you. 8. 9. 10.
Who are some successful people who failed at their first try? How to Make Difficult Conversations Easy: 7 Steps From a Clinical Psychologist Someone is screaming in your face at the top of their lungs. Or ranting angrily and you can’t get a word in edgewise. Or maybe they’re sobbing so hard you can barely understand what they’re saying. We’ve all been there. These situations don’t happen a lot (thank god) but we all feel helpless when they do. Problem is, these moments are often critical because they’re usually with people we care about. What’s the best way to handle these difficult conversations? I called someone who knows: Dr. Dinosaur Brains: Dealing with All Those Impossible People at Work Am I The Only Sane One Working Here? Emotional Vampires: Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry Here’s what you’ll learn in this post: The magic phrase that gets people to stop yelling.How to stop making the most common mistake in these kind of discussions.How to switch people from being emotional to being rational.The mindset that makes dealing with hysterical people easy.And a lot more. Okay, time to wage war with the crazy. You’re calm.
10 Qualities Every Alpha Male Should Look For In A Girlfriend Alpha men and women are those who shape the world. They are our leaders, our trendsetters, our troublemakers and our innovators. Without them, the human race could not progress. Being an alpha male is great in many ways and depressing in countless others. Finding an ideal girlfriend is never easy… but for alpha males, it’s even more difficult. 1. There isn’t much alpha males values over loyalty — they are pack leaders and expect those they lead to commit and stay loyal to them. 2. Alpha males aren’t brutes. Alpha males often fall into the habit of finding women who value superficial things over intellect. 3. Alpha males are driven by passion, by their wants, needs, goals and dreams. This is often why they have such a difficult time finding women with whom they wish to share their lives — few can keep up. 4. Living life as an alpha male isn’t easy — in fact, it’s much more difficult. 5. Control is the magical ingredient that turns dreams into reality. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Why?
Famous Failures 30 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Die. {Via studioflowerpower on etsy} “Rather than money, than fame, than love…give me truth.” ~ Thoreau I woke up this morning and my life clock marked 30. My first sleep-deprived idea was to pack a small suitcase, get on the first train, move to another country, change my name, change my hair color (or get plastic surgery if needed), and start from scratch. When I don’t know how to deal with life, I hide sometimes. By now, I’m good at both: fighting and disappearing. A true warrior doesn’t feel forced to do either, but moves through and with and for life, like water. So after I washed my face and considered the costs of running and those of fighting, I decided to do neither and have some juice instead. {Alkaline Espresso / Click for recipe.} We are a constant process, an event, we’re change. As such, our smaller houses, our temporary homes can only be made of cards. Loving the questions means to love yourself. So here is an exercise we can do together: a tweak to your usual bucket list. You.
Indo-European languages The Indo-European languages are a family of several hundred related languages and dialects. There are about 439 languages and dialects, according to the 2009 Ethnologue estimate, about half (221) belonging to the Indo-Aryan subbranch.[2] It includes most major current languages of Europe, the Iranian plateau, and the Indian Subcontinent, and was also predominant in ancient Anatolia. With written attestations appearing since the Bronze Age in the form of the Anatolian languages and Mycenaean Greek, the Indo-European family is significant to the field of historical linguistics as possessing the second-longest recorded history, after the Afro-Asiatic family. Indo-European languages are spoken by almost 3 billion native speakers,[3] the largest number by far for any recognised language family. Etymology[edit] History of Indo-European linguistics[edit] Franz Bopp, pioneer in the field of comparative linguistic studies. Gaston Coeurdoux and others made observations of the same type.
Dalai Lama: Meaning of Life Brené Brown on what people who rise strong from their facedown moments have in common, Grace Paley on the art of growing older, and more Hello, Peggy Fleming! If you missed last week's edition – Willa Cather on happiness, a breathtaking anatomy of sadness illustrated by Quentin Blake, Borges on success, and more – you can read it right here; if you missed my eulogy for the late, great Oliver Sacks, that's here. And if you're enjoying this, please consider supporting with a modest donation – every little bit helps, and comes enormously appreciated. Rising Strong: Brené Brown on the Physics of Vulnerability and What Resilient People Have in Common “There is no science without fancy, and no art without facts,” Vladimir Nabokov famously proclaimed. Today, hardly anyone embodies this sentiment more fully than Brené Brown, who came of age as a social scientist in an era when the tyranny of facts trivialized the richness of fancy and the human experience was squeezed out of the qualitative in the service of the quantitative, the two pitted as polarities. Art by Lisbeth Zwerger for a rare edition of The Wizard of Oz Brown writes:
2015 Gates Annual Letter But we think the next 15 years will see major breakthroughs for most people in poor countries. They will be living longer and in better health. They will have unprecedented opportunities to get an education, eat nutritious food, and benefit from mobile banking. These breakthroughs will be driven by innovation in technology — ranging from new vaccines and hardier crops to much cheaper smartphones and tablets — and by innovations that help deliver those things to more people. The rich world will keep getting exciting new advances too, but the improvements in the lives of the poor will be far more fundamental — the basics of a healthy, productive life. It's great that more people in rich countries will be able to watch movies on super hi-resolution screens. It is fair to ask whether the progress we're predicting will be stifled by climate change. We're excited to see how much better the world will be in 15 years.
‘Quirkyalone’ Is Still Alone Photo Lately I’ve been having a lot of conversations with friends who find themselves still single in their 30s and 40s and are starting to worry that it’s not those swinish men/crazy women or New York City’s cruelly Darwinian dating scene or bad luck. It’s just them. “I keep giving myself to people, and they don’t seem to want me,” one of my friends said after her last breakup. Another, crying at her dining room table because she hadn’t had a “real” relationship in years, said, “I must be doing something wrong.” My friend Jasmine, who has been engaged to two men and married to a third, describes herself as perennially single. We marvel at how most people, including many who seem less datable than us, successfully manage this simple trick — maintaining relationships — that we can’t seem to pull off. It would be easy for a glib armchair analyst to conclude that although these people think they want to be in lasting relationships, on some level they really don’t or else they would be by now.
Google CFO retires with a candid memo about work/life balance "After nearly seven years as CFO, I will be retiring from Google to spend more time with my family." That's how Patrick Pichette, one of Google's highest-ranking executives, led his announcement on Tuesday that he'd be retiring from his role at the company. That line of reasoning has become something of a safe cliché among notable executives leaving their posts. But then Pichette did something unusual: He kept going, offering a candid explanation about the struggles of work/life balance at his level. Pichette recalls a vacation in Africa with his wife last fall, during which she suggested they keep traveling and really see the world. "Then she asked the killer question," Pichette wrote in his memo, which he posted to Google+. He started to lay out the argument in his head: Their kids had grown up and moved away. In the end, life is wonderful, but nonetheless a series of trade offs, especially between business/professional endeavours and family/community.