Why Do Men Prefer Nice Women?: Responsiveness and Desire - Society for Personality and Social Psychology Friday, July 25, 2014 (0 Comments) Posted by: Jen Santisi People's emotional reactions and desires in initial romantic encounters determine the fate of a potential relationship. Responsiveness may be one of those initial "sparks" necessary to fuel sexual desire and land a second date. However, it may not be a desirable trait for both men and women on a first date. Femininity and Attractiveness Researchers from the Interdisciplinary Center (IDC) Herzliya, the University of Rochester, and the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, collaborated on three studies to observe people's perceptions of responsiveness. In the first study, the researchers examined whether responsiveness is perceived as feminine or masculine, and whether men or women perceived a responsive person of the opposite sex as sexually desirable. Sparking Sexual Desire Women's Perceptions of Responsiveness Birnbaum, G.
How to Handle Passive Aggressive People Passive aggressive people can be exasperating to deal with. Here are some examples: Your spouse brings home yet another gallon of ice cream after you’ve specifically asked him or her not to do this because you are trying to lose weight. A friend keeps arriving an hour late for a dinner date leaving you waiting over and over again. A co-worker keeps promising to help with a project but never comes through. Passive aggression is a form of anger, except the anger is expressed with a smile instead of the typical expressions. Passive aggressive people are experts at sugar coating hostility. Passive aggressive behavior ranges from simply irritating to manipulative and punishing. Passive aggressive people promise anything, then do exactly as they please. Why do people become passive aggressive? They’re typically raised in families where it’s not safe to express anger—they’re never taught to communicate it in a healthy manner. Communicating With Passive Aggressive People 1. 2. Relephant:
You're Distracted. This Professor Can Help. - Technology By Marc Parry Seattle Matthew Ryan Williams for The Chronicle Before each class session, David Levy leads his students in a few minutes of meditation. To complete her homework assignment, Meran Hill needed total concentration. The University of Washington senior shut the blinds in her studio apartment. Then she plunged into the task: Spend 15 minutes doing e-mail. Soon enough, though, a familiar craving bubbled up. As Ms. But the assignment had her trapped. The e-mail drill was one of numerous mind-training exercises in a unique class designed to raise students' awareness about how they use their digital tools. Their professor, David M. At its extreme, that debate plays out in the writing of authors whom the critic Adam Gopnik has dubbed the Never-Betters and the Better-Nevers. On college campuses, meanwhile, educators struggle to manage what the Stanford University multitasking researcher Clifford Nass describes as a radical shift in the nature of attention. When I ask Mr. But Mr. Mr.
13 Ways Successful People Deal With Toxic People Among friends, family and co-workers, there are those whose attitudes can be demeaning and toxic. It is difficult relating to some of these people and thus it becomes a challenge. So how do we get out from the hole and be masters of our own fates? The best way is to learn from successful people how they have approached the same role of winning the war against toxic individuals. 1. Toxic persons try to consume you and make you swim deep in their problems. Successful people understand that there is a fine line between offering to listen to the problems and getting themselves involved too deep in the negative emotional twists of such complainers. 2. By expecting change, you lower your energy and create a resistance in people. 3. Successful people know how important it is to store energy. By managing their emotions they can live to fight another day and avoid being brutally beaten. 4. Successful people do not allow other people’s opinions to determine their joy. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12.
What it means to "hold space" for people, plus eight tips on how to do it well - Heather Plett When my mom was dying, my siblings and I gathered to be with her in her final days. None of us knew anything about supporting someone in her transition out of this life into the next, but we were pretty sure we wanted to keep her at home, so we did. While we supported mom, we were, in turn, supported by a gifted palliative care nurse, Ann, who came every few days to care for mom and to talk to us about what we could expect in the coming days. She taught us how to inject Mom with morphine when she became restless, she offered to do the difficult tasks (like giving Mom a bath), and she gave us only as much information as we needed about what to do with Mom’s body after her spirit had passed. “Take your time,” she said. Ann gave us an incredible gift in those final days. In the two years since then, I’ve often thought about Ann and the important role she played in our lives. The work that Ann did can be defined by a term that’s become common in some of the circles in which I work.
5 Surefire Ways to Kill a Relationship It’s true enough that, day to day, all couples disagree and fight but research makes clear that it’s how we fight, and how often, that matters. The more such behaviors you see in your marriage—coming from either you or your spouse—the more slippery the slope. And, of course, focusing on how you resolve conflict alone isn’t the whole story: You need to ask yourself what you’re doing when you’re not fighting, too. Keeping in mind John Gottman’s now-famous 5:1 formula—that it takes five happy-making, restorative, and constructive moments to outweigh the effect of a destructive one—here are some of the behaviors that take us furthest from that ideal and most damage our relationships. If you want out, then by all means, do the following: 1. The formal name for this is “causal attribution.” A couple gets into a car with a destination in mind—it could be a restaurant, a party, even a romantic getaway spot. 2. Imagine a couple in their living room. 3. 4. 5. Gottman, John. Schrodt, Paul, Paul L.
worrying-about-stuff-is-a-sign-of-intelligence The tendency to worry about stuff could be a sign of a certain kind of intelligence, according to a paper in an upcoming edition of the journal Personality and Individual Differences (hat tip to Christian Jarrett at the British Psychology Society's Research Digest for spotting it first). A team led by Alexander Penney of Ontario's Lakehead University gave 126 undergrads a litany of surveys and questionnaires designed to measure both their intelligence and how much they tended to stress about events in their lives. (For instance, they were asked how strongly they agreed with statements like, "I am always worried about something.") Correlation doesn't imply causation, of course, but this is not the first paper to have found a link between anxiety and intelligence. It is possible that more verbally intelligent individuals are able to consider past and future events in greater detail, leading to more intense rumination and worry.
Como fazer alguém se apaixonar por você Eles só se encontraram por causa de um questionário. A equipe do psicólogo Arthur Aron (aquele mesmo da pesquisa na Ponte Suspensa de Capilano) havia convidado voluntários para responder a uma série de perguntas sobre estilo de vida, hobbies, interesses etc. Com base nessas respostas, Aron formou uma série de casais que dividiam gostos e ideias parecidos para ficar frente a frente e conversar. Cada dupla se sentou em uma sala confortável, só os dois, sem ninguém por perto, e começaram a conversar. Ela perguntou quem ele levaria a um jantar, se pudesse escolher qualquer pessoa no mundo. E também contou qual seria a opção dela. Eis as perguntas do questionário do amor, que faria duas pessoas desconhecidas se apaixonarem: FASE 11. FASE 2 13. FASE 325. A ideia do questionário era criar laços de confiança de um jeito bem rápido. Aqueles quatro minutos finais de encarada amarraram de vez os laços. Crédito da foto: flickr.com/calamity_photography/
10 Best-Ever Anxiety-Management Techniques By Margaret Wehrenberg "I don't think I want to live if I have to go on feeling like this." I hear this remark all too often from anxiety sufferers. They say it matter-of-factly or dramatically, but they all feel the same way: if anxiety symptoms are going to rule their lives, then their lives don't seem worth living. What is it about anxiety that's so horrific that otherwise high-functioning people are frantic to escape it? But what clients don't know when they start taking meds is the unacknowledged cost of relying solely on pills: they'll never learn some basic methods that can control or eliminate their symptoms without meds. Of course, therapists know that eliminating symptomatology isn't the same as eliminating etiology.
Como flechar o coração de todos aqueles que conhecer | Ciência Contamos com sete segundos e apenas uma oportunidade, segundo a famosa coach internacional Carol Kinsey Goman, para causar uma primeira boa impressão. Não acontece todos os dias, mas frequentemente, e, hoje, precisamente, pode ser o dia em que você vai conhecer essa pessoa especial para quem tem que parecer deslumbrante. Vamos estabelecer uma pergunta clara: Como é possível agradar? Embora a famosa frase que diz que a primeira impressão é a que conta soe como um slogan publicitário, possui uma boa dose de verdade, ou pelo menos é a melhor fórmula para abrir caminho entre duas pessoas. Essa é a ideia sustentada pelos profissionais de Ciências do Comportamento, como Goman, que treina, todos os dias, altos executivos e políticos e que dá palestras sobre empatia, liderança e linguagem corporal. Em resumo, logo após conhecer alguém, ativamos um nível primário com o qual nos questionamos se é amigo ou inimigo, e nos preparamos para agir baseados nisso. 1. 2.