Plug Energy Drains With These Magic Words In learning to manage my energy better, I have stumbled upon some magic words. These words are just as effective for extroverts as introverts , but introverts--with our deep listening habits, our hyperawareness, our busy, busy minds--may need them more. Say these words silently in your head when you feel yourself being sucked into a vortex of other people's demands and expectations. The two versions apply to a variety of situations and nuances. The magic words are: Several readers have written to me about, and I recognize in myself, an oversensitivity to social messages. For example: I'm at a dinner party. Was that really my responsibility? Nope. Photo by sergis blog via Flickr (Creative Commons) Oh, and if I don't really want to go a dinner party to begin with, it's not my responsibility to attend. See how that works? Or consider the chatterbox who corners you with a barrage of words at a party. These magic words don't work on genuine obligations and legitimate responsibilities.
Relationship Rules Human beings crave intimacy, need to love and be loved. Yet people have much trouble doing so. It's clear from the many letters I get that lots of folks have no idea what a healthy relationship even looks like. From many sources and many experts, I have culled some basic rules of relationships. Choose a partner wisely and well. Twórczy ludzie wg Junga « Rozwój i Świadomość Wiemy, że człowiek prawie nigdy nie uświadamia sobie, do jakiego typu funkcjonalnego należy. To samo odnosi się do typu postaw. Często rozróżnienie jest bardzo trudne i trzeba włożyć wiele psychologicznej pracy, aby z tego kalejdoskopowego obrazu, w jakim psyche ukazuje się obserwatorowi, wyłuskać właściwy jej typ. Zadanie to jest tym trudniejsze, im silniejszy jest związek człowieka z nieświadomością. W szczególności dotyczy to wszystkich natur artystycznych. Na przykład często ten sam artysta jest w życiu ekstrawertykiem, a w swoich dziełach introwertykiem, lub odwrotnie. Jung uważa, że twórczość ekstrawersyjna powstaje dzięki artystycznemu przetworzeniu doświadczeń zewnętrznych twórczość introwersyjna zaś „dzieje się” wskutek przemożnego wpływu treści wewnętrznych przejawiających się za pośrednictwem pióra lub pędzla artysty. Fantazja jest wprawdzie źródłem inspiracji w pracy twórczej, ale jest to dar, który może pochodzić od każdego z czterech typów. Więcej: o typach funkcjonalnych
The Beginner’s Guide to Zen Habits – A Guided Tour | zen habits By Leo Babauta I know a lot of people who fall into a slump, losing the habit of exercise, procrastinating with work, slipping into a bad diet, and generally not feeling motivated. It’s hard to get out of a slump like that. It’s hard to get going again, to get started when all the forces of inertia are against you. Here’s how to get started, in just a few easy steps. Pick one thing. With every single step, you’ll feel better. Just announced: Dealing with Your Struggles video course. The New Frontier in Democratic Theory and Practice: Organizational Forms that Simultaneously Optimize Autonomy & Community Returning to the Jungians, we find that at the forefront of Jungian psychological theory is the creation of a feminine ego based on the devalued functions of NF. Jungian analyst Laurie Schapira heralds the advent of a post-patriarchal "feminine" ego that is "grounded in the emotional [F], imaginal [N] matrix of the Self."72 -page 57- Hillman believes that the lack of development of the feeling function in contemporary society results in a situation in which "we have a rather impoverished and sentimental notion" of what an educated feeling function could be.73 Zipes, in referring to the "instrumentalization of fantasy" explains how imagination [N] is devalued in contemporary society.74 In addition to these assertions there is statistical data that demographically demonstrate that the NF combination is underrepresented in contemporary Western society. -page 58- From this diagram we can draw a number of conclusions. From these demographics we discover a number of noteworthy observations. ...
Healing the Body with Mindfulness of Breathing « Metta Refuge This excerpt from a talk by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh explains how to use mindfulness of breathing to bring loving-kindness to our dear bodies. The physical effect of this can be truly remarkable. As Thây says, “You should really love your body. The First Exercise of Mindful Breathing My dear friends, yesterday I spoke about the first exercise proposed by the Buddha concerning mindful breathing: “Breathing in, I am aware that I am breathing in; breathing out, I am aware that I am breathing out.” We should always start with our physical bodies, because our physical bodies also needs peace, harmony and rest. We should realize a true rest. Animals in the forest, every time they are wounded, know how to rest. Deep relaxation here is one of the methods of resting. The Second Exercise of Mindful Breathing The second exercise: “I breathe in, and I am aware of the length of my in-breath; breathing out, I am aware of the length of my out-breath.” The Third Exercise of Mindful Breathing Like this:
First Person Plural - Magazine An evolving approach to the science of pleasure suggests that each of us contains multiple selves—all with different desires, and all fighting for control. If this is right, the pursuit of happiness becomes even trickier. Can one self "bind" another self if the two want different things? Are you always better off when a Good Self wins? And should outsiders, such as employers and policy makers, get into the fray? Imagine a long, terrible dental procedure. There is a good argument for saying “Yes. Also see: Interview: "Song of My Selves" Psychologist Paul Bloom reflects on happiness, desire, memory, and the chaotic community that lives inside every human mind. The psychologist and recent Nobel laureate Daniel Kahneman conducted a series of studies on the memory of painful events, such as colonoscopies. Such contradictions arise all the time. The question “What makes people happy?” But what’s more exciting, I think, is the emergence of a different perspective on happiness itself.
MBTI Basics - The 16 MBTI Types Quiet, serious, earn success by thoroughness and dependability. Practical, matter-of-fact, realistic, and responsible. Decide logically what should be done and work toward it steadily, regardless of distractions. Take pleasure in making everything orderly and organized - their work, their home, their life. Quiet, friendly, responsible, and conscientious. Seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. Have original minds and great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. Tolerant and flexible, quiet observers until a problem appears, then act quickly to find workable solutions. Quiet, friendly, sensitive, and kind. Idealistic, loyal to their values and to people who are important to them. Seek to develop logical explanations for everything that interests them. Flexible and tolerant, they take a pragmatic approach focused on immediate results. Outgoing, friendly, and accepting. Warmly enthusiastic and imaginative.
You Are Not So Smart Hold Me Tight We have a wired-in need for emotional contact and responsiveness from significant others. It's a survival response, the driving force of the bond of security a baby seeks with its mother. This observation is at the heart of attachment theory. A great deal of evidence indicates that the need for secure attachment never disappears; it evolves into the adult need for a secure emotional bond with a partner. Think of how a mother lovingly gazes at her baby, just as two lovers stare into each other's eyes. Although our culture has framed dependency as a bad thing, a weakness, it is not. The most basic tenet of attachment theory is that isolation—not just physical isolation but emotional isolation—is traumatizing for human beings. The drama of love that I saw played out at the bar each night as a child is all about the human hunger for safe emotional connection, a survival imperative we experience from the cradle to the grave. Broken Connections Consider a couple with their firstborn child.
Perception Since the rise of experimental psychology in the 19th Century, psychology's understanding of perception has progressed by combining a variety of techniques.[3] Psychophysics quantitatively describes the relationships between the physical qualities of the sensory input and perception.[5] Sensory neuroscience studies the brain mechanisms underlying perception. Perceptual systems can also be studied computationally, in terms of the information they process. Perceptual issues in philosophy include the extent to which sensory qualities such as sound, smell or color exist in objective reality rather than in the mind of the perceiver.[3] The perceptual systems of the brain enable individuals to see the world around them as stable, even though the sensory information is typically incomplete and rapidly varying. Human and animal brains are structured in a modular way, with different areas processing different kinds of sensory information. Process and terminology[edit] Perception and reality[edit]
How Not to Talk to Your Kids What do we make of a boy like Thomas? Thomas (his middle name) is a fifth-grader at the highly competitive P.S. 334, the Anderson School on West 84th. Slim as they get, Thomas recently had his long sandy-blond hair cut short to look like the new James Bond (he took a photo of Daniel Craig to the barber). Unlike Bond, he prefers a uniform of cargo pants and a T-shirt emblazoned with a photo of one of his heroes: Frank Zappa. Since Thomas could walk, he has heard constantly that he’s smart. But as Thomas has progressed through school, this self-awareness that he’s smart hasn’t always translated into fearless confidence when attacking his schoolwork. For instance, in the early grades, Thomas wasn’t very good at spelling, so he simply demurred from spelling out loud. Why does this child, who is measurably at the very top of the charts, lack confidence about his ability to tackle routine school challenges? Thomas is not alone. Why just a single line of praise? Why did this happen?
Neuroscience Sheds New Light on Creativity - Rewiring the Creative Mind The 10 Rules of Change Self-change is tough, but it's not impossible, nor does it have to be traumatic , according to change expert Stan Goldberg, Ph.D. Here, he lays out the 10 principles he deems necessary for successful change. My mother died on Christmas day of a massive heart attack. I later counted 15 self-help books on her shelves, but found each offered only broad ideas; none provided the specifics necessary to save her life. Like my mother, many of us want to change but simply don't know how to do it. After 25 years of researching how people change, I've discovered 10 major principles that encompass all self-change strategies. All Behaviors Are Complex Research by psychologist James O. : Break down the behavior Almost all behaviors can be broken down. He wanted to be on time for work, so he wrote down what that would entail: waking up, showering, dressing, preparing breakfast, eating, driving, parking and buying coffee—all before 9 a.m. Change Is Frightening : Examine the consequences : Be realistic