ARTICLE: Assertivité - l'affirmation de soi dans le respect d'autrui Plus le quelque chose est important ( information, projet), et plus on souhaite atteindre son objectif, plus il est nécessaire, pour y parvenir, de considérer le quelqu’un plus que le quelque chose : c’est à dire avoir plus de considération pour l’individu (l’autre et soi-même) que pour le propos (ce que l’on échange). Cela peut sembler paradoxal de lâcher un peu quelque chose pour mieux l’obtenir… mais il en est ainsi. Respect d’autrui Le respect d’autrui ne peut être que naturel. S’il est forcé, il n’y a pas respect de l’autre mais manipulation (même avec de bonnes intentions). Quand vous souhaitez sortir d'une pièce, vous respectez intuitivement un excellent protocole qui consiste d'abord à ouvrir la porte et ensuite à sortir. Oser dire c'est, sans attendre, exprimer ce qu'on ressent, ce qui nous semble important, ou ce qui doit être dit - Si par exemple quelqu'un nous dit "Tu viens au cinéma voir ce film?" Faire semblant consomme beaucoup d'énergie.
12 Toxic Thoughts You Need To Drop For A Better Life One of my mottoes is “Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life!” I’m a big believer that our thoughts and emotions shape our experiences. The problem is that most people aren’t even aware of their negative thoughts. It’s almost like they have just become a habit, so it seems normal to them. Here are 12 common toxic thoughts that you need to drop in order to have a better life: 1. You’re not a victim. 2. You can’t. 3. Some things you can change. 4. “If only I was as pretty as that girl, then I’d be happy.” 5. Expectations can be deadly to happiness, even if you think your expectation is reasonable, such as having your roommate or spouse do his/her share of the chores around the house. 6. If you are not a whole person already, then having a romantic partner will not make you whole. 7. I always wonder why people will fight to the death to prove they are “right.” 8. Why do you care? 9. We live in a world where we like to think there is an objective reality. 10. 11. 12.
Définition de la communication non violente (CNV) La Communication non violente (CNV) est une méthode visant à créer entre les êtres humains des relations fondées sur l’empathie, la compassion, la coopération harmonieuse et le respect de soi et des autres. Il s’agit d’un outil de communication, principalement verbal, qui peut servir à la résolution de conflits entre deux personnes ou au sein de groupes. La pratique de la Communication non violente permettrait également d’être en meilleure relation avec soi-même, de mieux comprendre ses besoins profonds et de prendre en charge, de manière autonome et responsable, les divers aspects de sa propre vie. Il ne s’agit donc pas d’une thérapie, mais elle peut avoir des retombées thérapeutiques intéressantes. Les concepts et les techniques de la Communication non violente ont été mis au point, au milieu des années 1960, par Marshall B. Historique On compte aujourd’hui environ 300 formateurs certifiés et des milliers de praticiens de Communication non violente un peu partout dans le monde.
Le flux libre, ou comment maitriser ses règles J’ai toujours détesté avoir mes règles. Pas parce qu’elles me rendent particulièrement irritable mais parce que ce n’est vraiment pas commode : acheter des serviettes, sentir le tampon qui glisse quand il est trop plein, devoir le replacer… Depuis la mooncup, je n’ai plus ce genre de problèmes. Je me suis rendue compte que mon flux était léger et que je pouvais tenir une journée sans serviette qui démange sous ma culotte, en évitant les infections possibles dues aux agents blanchissants que les industriels intègrent dans les protections menstruelles. Depuis la mooncup, j’ai du mal à croire qu’il soit possible de faire mieux en terme de protections. Puis, il y a quelque temps, alors que je me baladais sur le net, je tombe sur un témoignage d’une fille pratiquant le flux libre. Mais en réalité, le sang ne coule pas tout le temps. Le Period T-shirt de Petra Collins Avant dernier jour de mes dernières règles, je passe la matinée chez moi, je ne mets pas la mooncup pour voir. Sarah Sarah
7 Productivity Hacks You Could Be Doing Now Wait, is this your relationship with productivity? Admit it, you envy productive people. You keep telling yourself that you could be more productive if only you use your time better and smarter. Here’s the problem: Your relationship with productivity is a forceful one. You want to force productivity into your day, rather than, shall we say, integrate it? Why is this so hard to see this? Because the failure is not immediate, it happens gradually. Stop forcing productivity. Instead of forcing productivity into your life, choose to integrate it. First, you need to understand the pieces of the puzzle that create a completely productive system for you. I repeat the important keywords: For You! Then integrate these pieces as small building blocks into your lifestyle, your habits, and your natural rhythms. Because sometimes, there are no outside forces, no deadlines and no pressures from others to get anything done. How do you make productivity flow into your days? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.
Eteignez la télé, écoutez les arbres pousser Un grand entretien sur les arbres ? Là, maintenant ? Oui. Parce que parler des arbres avec Francis Hallé, c’est aussi s’interroger sur la nature humaine. Il est l’auteur d’un « Eloge de la plante » (Seuil, 2014) et d’un « Plaidoyer pour l’arbre » (Actes Sud, 2005). Elles nous confirment que les plantes communiquent entre elles et qu’elles adoptent des stratégies d’une grande complexité – saviez-vous que certains arbres sont « timides », qu’un seul arbre peut avoir plusieurs génomes et que le diamètre de certains végétaux varie en même temps que les marées ? La magie de ces découvertes et la poésie de Francis Hallé le confirment : il nous faut plus souvent contempler les plantes, elles nous font du bien. Rue89 : Dans vos livres et dans le film « Il était une forêt », vous témoignez souvent de votre immense passion pour le végétal. Francis Hallé : Quand j’étais étudiant à la Sorbonne, dans les années 50, je m’intéressais aux animaux, comme d’ailleurs 99% des étudiants de ma promotion.
Self-Refinement Through the Wisdom of the Ages: 15 Resolutions for 2015 from Some of Humanity’s Greatest Minds by Maria Popova Enduring ideas for personal refinement from Seneca, Thoreau, Virginia Woolf, Carl Sagan, Alan Watts, Emerson, Bruce Lee, Maya Angelou, and more. At the outset of each new year, humanity sets out to better itself as we resolve to eradicate our unhealthy habits and cultivate healthy ones. But while the most typical New Year’s resolutions tend to be about bodily health, the most meaningful ones aim at a deeper kind of health through the refinement of our mental, spiritual, and emotional habits — which often dictate our physical ones. In a testament to young Susan Sontag’s belief that rereading is an act of rebirth, I have revisited the timelessly rewarding ideas of great thinkers from the past two millennia to cull fifteen such higher-order resolutions for personal refinement. No one has made a more compelling case for the bodily and spiritual value of walking — that basic, infinitely rewarding, yet presently endangered human activity — than Henry David Thoreau. Smith writes:
Type de l'Ennéagramme 1 - Le Réformateur This page is also available in your preferred language English. Copyright © Ewald Berkers Perfectionnistes, responsable, fixés sur l'amélioration 1. Le Réformateur Les gens de ce type de personnalité tiennent essentiellement à améliorer les choses parce qu'ils pensent que rien n'est jamais tout à fait suffisamment bien. Les Uns ont un regard perçant sur les détails. L’incapacité à atteindre la perfection qu’ils désirent nourrit leurs sentiments de culpabilité d’avoir échoué, et alimente un début de colère contre un monde imparfait. Des Uns sont des personnes sérieuses, ils ont tendance à avoir des principes moralement élevés, ils sont compétents et sans compromis. Les Uns sont souvent déterminés et ambitieux et sont parfois accrocs au travail. L'acharnement à poursuivre leur idéal en fait souvent des personnes tendues qui ont du mal à se détendre et qui se privent inutilement d'un grand nombre des plaisirs innocents de la vie.
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Meet the Woman Who’s Created the 21st Century Finance Model for Emerging Technologies — The Internet of Women Meet the Woman Who’s Created the 21st Century Finance Model for Emerging Technologies This piece is an excerpt from the forthcoming book The Internet of Women: Accelerating Culture Change to be published on June 30th: Riva-Melissa Tez is the CEO and co-founder of Permutation in San Francisco. I learned important lessons about money at a very early age. At 10, I moved into a homeless shelter after my father left my mother. I received a scholarship to attend a prestigious all-girls school. Once I realized that money was the key to an escape, I started reading books on consumer psychology. My sister lied and said I was 16. I sold more at that trade show than the entire management team, earning £15,000 in commission, which was more money than I could even fathom at the time considering my mother and I lived on £60 a week. People sometimes ask what made me ambitious at a young age. Whilst at University, I was living above an empty shop in Notting Hill, which is an affluent area in London.
Own, Apologize, Repair: Coming Back to Integrity | Dating Tips for the Feminist Man There is a variation on ‘Not All Men.’ It is called ‘I Feel Bad When You Say That.’ My godson Kyle is six. He knows at six that when you hurt someone, you go back right away and own, apologize, and do repair. He is being encouraged to develop and express his empathic capacities, capacities he will need as a man. He is also being taught that he is not shameful. When he does something wrong, his adults show him how to make it right and they also let him know they love him and he is good just as he is. As he learns, sometimes he mixes things up. Sometimes he can’t tell the difference between him feeling bad because he hurt somebody, and feeling bad because someone hurt him. Kyle and his dad are at the table. Kyle, still flailing, kicks his dad on the shin. At the end of his rope – but still modelling for his son how to handle anger – his dad says “You know what Kyle, my feelings are hurt because you kicked me. “You said I kicked dad! This moment is a kind of hilarious moment, for the adults.
Preparing for Venus Retrograde: Cleansing Rituals to Get Rid of Old Lovers & Bad Love Juju. get elephant's newsletter We perform rituals every day—getting ready for work, how we make our coffee the same way or how we prepare to go to bed. In our modern era we have largely lost track of rituals that cleanse, clear or make space and rarely do we talk about literally cleaning ourselves and our space after a relationship ends or we have conflict in our current one. With Venus, the planet of love, intimacy and creativity, going retrograde on July the 25th, now is the perfect time to clear out exes, old lovers or even past strain and pain in your current relationship. A Blast From the Past I Didn’t Need. Don’t think your physical world is affecting you? No Room for Mr. Our physical world is made up of energy and should support our inner world with a sense of harmony, happiness and hopefulness. Please note: if these things make you feel good then you are probably okay hanging onto them, but if they bring up longing, loss, betrayal or loneliness, then throw that sh*t out! 1. 2. 3.
Your brain does not process information and it is not a computer | Aeon Essays No matter how hard they try, brain scientists and cognitive psychologists will never find a copy of Beethoven’s 5th Symphony in the brain – or copies of words, pictures, grammatical rules or any other kinds of environmental stimuli. The human brain isn’t really empty, of course. But it does not contain most of the things people think it does – not even simple things such as ‘memories’. Our shoddy thinking about the brain has deep historical roots, but the invention of computers in the 1940s got us especially confused. For more than half a century now, psychologists, linguists, neuroscientists and other experts on human behaviour have been asserting that the human brain works like a computer. To see how vacuous this idea is, consider the brains of babies. A healthy newborn is also equipped with more than a dozen reflexes – ready-made reactions to certain stimuli that are important for its survival. We don’t store words or the rules that tell us how to manipulate them.
The Healing Power in Owning Our Privileges — Rest For Resistance “We are experimenting with new strategies of survival. Their efficacy is necessarily not reflected in dominant culture, and yet throughout history we hear stories of folks refusing competition in precisely this way and daring to walk together to another rhythm . . . We just have to remember we are not alone in this journey. We sit to practice being with ourselves so we can better sit, love, and live with those who will show up and help us along the way.” – Jasmine Syedullah, PhD, Radical Dharma: Talking Race, Love & Liberation (pg. 86) Everybody has access to things that others don’t. With the way conversations around privilege currently unfold, oppression olympics is unavoidable. To move forward together in solidarity, it’s time to reframe privilege, specifically how it operates in our day-to-day lives. In order to be truly whole as individuals, we cannot deny parts of ourselves. 1) Privilege points us to our agency. Rather than focus on what you can’t do, refocus on what you can.