Can You Really Improve Your Emotional Intelligence? - Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic Who wouldn’t want a higher level of emotional intelligence? Studies have shown that a high emotional quotient (or EQ) boosts career success, entrepreneurial potential, leadership talent, health, relationship satisfaction, humor, and happiness. It is also the best antidote to work stress and it matters in every job — because all jobs involve dealing with people, and people with higher EQ are more rewarding to deal with. Most coaching interventions try to enhance some aspect of EQ, usually under the name of social, interpersonal, or soft skills training. But what is the evidence? Nearly 3,000 scientific articles have been published on EQ since the concept was first introduced in 1990, and there are five key points to consider: Everyone can change, but few people are seriously willing to try. The bottom line is that some people are just naturally more grumpy, shy, self-centered or insecure, while other people are blessed with natural positivity, composure, and people-skills. 2.
10 Things Unstoppable People Do That Average People Don't Do you get derailed by prior success? Do you do these 10 things? 1. Don't get crushed by success. Success can become a catalyst for failure. -- Greg McKeown Most people can't handle success, authority, or privilege. But for you, no external noise can push harder than your own internal pressure. 2. Implementing extreme ownership requires checking your ego and operating with a high degree of humility. No blame. 3. Well done, is well said. -- Anthony Liccione Cal Newport's recent book, Deep Work, distinguishes "deep work" from "shallow work." rare; high value; and non-replicable (i.e., not easy to copy/outsource) common; low value; and replicable (i.e., anyone can do it) Talking is shallow. 4. Mental resilience is arguably the most critical trait of a world-class performer, and it should be nurtured continuously. Remaining focused under pressure will take you further than those who don't. The best training you will ever do is mental training. 5. Your confidence determines: 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.
Zones d’inconfort et ancres de certitude (2/2): la sérénité Ca y est, nous sommes définitivement très loin de notre zone de confort : peur, doute, panique nous submergent. Comment gagner (un peu) en sérénité de manière à redevenir un tant soit peu apte à la réflexion et à l'action ? Quand nos stratégies connues ne sont plus pertinentes Les « classiques » du retour dans la zone de confort en entreprise sont : le recours aux experts, aux procédures et règles ainsi qu’à la hiérarchie – ce que les entreprises ont en stock et appliquent avec succès en temps normal. Ces tentatives de retrouver la maîtrise sont des manières souvent inappropriées de répondre à ce besoin de sécurité, qui, lui, est naturel, biologique comme on l’a vu dans le billet précédent. Qu’est-ce qu’une « ancre de certitude » ? La vie, les activités professionnelles sont, comme vous le savez bien, faits de hauts et de bas. Ne confondez pas « ancres de certitude » et « bouées percées » Jetez des ancres multiples et variées 1) Sollicitez tous vos sens 2) Pensez à des ancres temporelles
Richard Branson on Self-Awareness for Leadership Growth Editor's Note: Entrepreneur Richard Branson regularly shares his business experience and advice with readers. Ask him a question and your query might be the inspiration for a future column. Q: What are the key personal characteristics that go hand-in-hand with business success? -- Titto Mbuvi All sorts of people find success as entrepreneurs, in every profession and area of life. Like most other companies, we at the Virgin Group have experienced a number of failures along with our successes -- it is so easy to get things wrong. This is what happened when we launched Virgin Cola in 1994. But as time went on, we realized that we'd failed to adhere to our own rules. With Virgin Cola, we were so intent on repeating our model that led to previous successes that we didn't notice the problems with our idea. I've found that knowing your business and yourself can also help you to know when to follow your instincts, so you can find the courage to move ahead and ignore the advice of naysayers.
DDI Blog | When Your Bread and Butter Skills Stop Working by Richmond Fourmy, Psy.D. The C-suite is a coveted career destination for ambitious leaders. But once they get there, many discover that leading at the top of the organization isn’t what they thought it would be. As a result, finding themselves in unfamiliar territory, they may fail or, at the very least, struggle to succeed. A few years ago, I was speaking with one such executive who found himself way out of his comfort zone in a C-level role that took him away from tasks and responsibilities he had always enjoyed. Another executive, this one in the manufacturing industry, had worked his way up to the top by being one of the smartest guys in the room. But now in his executive role, all the traits that had served him so well and allowed him to ascend to his current position were starting to fail him. Another executive was the exact opposite. Posted: 17 May, 2018, by Richmond Fourmy, Psy.D. by Richmond Fourmy, Psy.D. The C-suite is a coveted career destination for ambitious leaders.
Zones d’inconfort et ancres de certitude (1/2): la peur Qu'on le veuille ou pas, l'incertitude génère inconfort, inquiétude, peur voire anxiété, soit des émotions « managérialement incorrectes » dans un monde où certains croient encore dur comme fer que la décision dite rationnelle est le summum de l'intelligence de l'homo economicus. Qu'entend-on par « incertitude » ? Selon le Larousse, l'incertitude est le « Caractère de ce qui est incertain », « État de quelqu'un qui ne sait quel parti prendre, ou état plus ou moins préoccupant de quelqu'un qui est dans l'attente d'une chose incertaine ». Et incertain signifie « Qui n'est pas établi avec exactitude, connu avec certitude », « Qui n'est pas sûr, qui peut se produire ou non, être tel ou tel ». L'incertitude nous propulse hors de la zone de confort Dans cette belle animation, le concept de zone de confort est fort bien expliqué. Incertitude et peur vont de pair Ma prestation, mon produit sont-ils suffisamment bons ? La peur du jugement se décline sous plusieurs formes : Effets de la peur
Social Intelligence Competencies Predict Transformational Leadership Style and Effectiveness 13 Things You Should Give Up If You Want To Be Successful Zone d’apprentissage, zone des possibles Entre zone de confort et inconnu total, la zone d’apprentissage est celle qui révèle les possibles, en particulier en termes de projets professionnels et de leur faisabilité. Partons donc explorer cette zone d’apprentissage, ses bénéfices, ses obstacles, pour en faire l’alliée de nos ambitions. Cette vidéo, réalisée par Inknowation est une société espagnole qui aide les organisations à se transfomer et à s’adapter au changement. Elle a conçu cette vidéo pour montrer comment chacun peut être acteur des changements choisis en osant rêver ses projets. On ne nous apprend pas à avoir confiance en nos rêves et en général, celui qui a une vision claire de ce qu’il veut pour lui-même et son avenir est facilement estampillé arrogant: nous sommes censés faire des sacrifices et à accepter un lot pas toujours très excitant, sous prétexte qu’on n’est pas là pour rigoler. Rêver ses objectifsLeur donner une date d’expirationŒuvrer pour leur réalisation La zone de confort La zone d’apprentissage
How to Use Eye Contact to Improve Your Business and Love Life In our first post in this two-part series on eye contact, we discussed the importance of eye contact and some of the reasons we don’t always feel comfortable looking someone in the eye. But just because eye contact is a great thing and a vital tool for improving the quality of all your face-to-face interactions with others, doesn’t mean that more eye contact is always better or that all eye contact is created equal. You have to do it right—at the right time and in the right way. How to do that is what we’ll be exploring today. We’ll start off with a primer on how to make good eye contact in general conversational situations, and then we’ll tackle eye contact tips for specific scenarios. Let’s get started. General Principles for Making Effective Eye Contact Eye contact begets eye contact. But don’t be a creeper. Thus good eye contact is based on mutuality. “In order for eye contact to feel good, one person cannot impose his visual will on another; it is a shared experience. Hide your eyes.
Frederic Laloux | Reinventing Organizations | Human Connection at Work As founder of We-Q, the collaborative intelligence App, I had the pleasure of meeting and interviewing Frederic Laloux, author of Reinventing Organizations. Fredric talks of the need to restore “our birthright” of deep human connection back into the contemporary workplace. A link to the entire interview is below, but what follows is a description of the key themes, their relevance to the contemporary workplace, and their link to the effectiveness of We-Q. Fred believes that in many organisations it is dangerous to show our true selves. We all too often hide behind an unspoken agreement to be ‘professional’ i.e. making decisions based on reason rather than feelings. This creates toxic cultures, products and services, because we develop them from a limited part of our true selves, and they subsequently satisfy only a narrow part of people’s true needs. Our doubts remain hidden: “too often aren’t we simply feeling good about doing the wrong thing?” 4.